• KaRunChiy
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    1457 hours ago

    Me and my fiancee both work full time to just barely survive each month with no savings because the CoL is so fucking high it’s unmaintainable. And if you reply with “just move”, first: I’m in the midwest, it’s not AS bad out here, and second: Moving is a privilege, it’s expensive, time consuming, and often times you end up in a worse spot than you were before

    • @HeyJoe
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      63 hours ago

      Exactly! Same boat, I am too poor to move! Due to missed payments on mortgage, credit cards, and medical bills, our credit score is abysmal. There is no way we can get a new mortgage or pass credit checks for an apartment. On top of that I don’t have the time or money to invest into the house so there are many things that need to be fixed, some of these absolutely need to before selling it so I also can’t just sell either. 3rd, you’re right. Wherever I do end up moving (if somehow we did get approved), it’s probably going to cost more due to higher interest rates, and it will most likely cost more. We are praying to make it a few more years until stupid daycare is done so we can finally make ends meet a little…

      I never thought I would be in this bad of a situation in my life, but here I am and I just want to survive each day. Thinking about money every day for years now is tiring and stressful. They have a name for it, its called poverty brain.

      • @sandwichsaregood
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        I had a basic but nice first house, but I sold it to move for a new job. I even was lucky enough to still make a bit of a profit. But not enough, and now I’m stuck back with renting again, can’t really afford to buy a new house with interest rates, prices, inflation eroding my income in other areas, and poor availability. I think back to my parents buying their first house and how nice it was by comparison, for a fraction of the price even adjusted for inflation and it gives me a really unfortunate sense of perspective, much less hearing stories like yours or from friends I know who are in a bad situations. I’m not struggling, but prospects for improving things aren’t great either, and that seems to be the case for everyone I know.

    • @[email protected]
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      546 hours ago

      Don’t worry. All that work you’re doing will pay off… your landlord’s fifth mortgage.

      • KaRunChiy
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        306 hours ago

        In my case I’m subleasing so I’m paying off my Landlords’ Landlord’s fifth mortgage

    • @[email protected]
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      387 hours ago

      You just need to put in some extra effort or get a side hustle like we did. /S elder millennial.

    • @credo
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      156 hours ago

      I can install some pull handles on your bootstraps for a small monthly subscription fee. No, you won’t own them.

    • @Lost_My_Mind
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      -496 hours ago

      I’d love to know your version of “just barely” is you have two adults working full time in a 2 person household.

      Maybe your mortgage is far higher then I’m imagining.

      I live in an apartment, but it’s overpriced, and it’s just me. This world is designed to be a 2 person household.

      So I have to imagine you’re living beyond your means. I’m living beyond my means too, but I also don’t have a decent wage either. So living at all is living beyond my means.

      You should add up your whole house income, divide that number by 4, and THAT number should be what your mortgage shouldn’t be higher than.

      I suspect your mortgage is probably much higher than that number.

      Either that or we have different definitions of “just getting by”.

      • @Anamnesis
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        33 hours ago

        😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆

      • @dariusj18
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        306 hours ago

        That formula hasn’t been valid for like, 20 years?

        • KaRunChiy
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          206 hours ago

          Yeah that inital response gave me the impression that they live in a completely different situation than what I, and most of the people I know IRL are experiencing. Typical rent prices out here are 120% the sum of 2 weeks of minimum wage pay, not including utilities

      • KaRunChiy
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        196 hours ago

        ≥ Mortgage You lost me there, renting is much more expensive than paying a mortgage off

        • @[email protected]
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          33 hours ago

          My rent is around 1800 euro, if I’d buy this apartment, my mortgage would be around 3000. That’s for more than half a mil. After 30 years I’d have paid off more than a mil.

          The company I rent from just got their financing much earlier, and in very big quantities. (Eg it has 100s to 1000s apartments and houses.)

          Every year I make more money, every year the place I live is more difficult to buy.

        • @Lost_My_Mind
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          -206 hours ago

          Depends where and how you live. My rent is $800 a month, but some mortgages are thousands of dollars.

          • @[email protected]
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            215 hours ago

            Where the fuck do you live with $800 rent? Middle of Montana? Dead center of Death Valley? Gtfo.

            • KaRunChiy
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              115 hours ago

              Ikr, just saw an ad for a nearby apartment wanting 1,200$ a month for a studio apartment… in Nebraska

            • @Lost_My_Mind
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              Lakewood, a suburb of Cleveland. It’s overpriced as hell.

                • @Lost_My_Mind
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                  12 hours ago

                  Yeah, but I’m not in your economy. Average wage around here is lkke $10/hr.

              • @[email protected]
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                13 hours ago

                You pay $500 less than the average American for rent. I think you may be lacking the perspective necessary to engage productively with this topic.

                • @Lost_My_Mind
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                  12 hours ago

                  My rent is $500 less than whatever metric you’re using, but our local ecconomy is also lowers than yours.

                  Average wage here is 10/hr for a factory job. I’ve heard some places like Seattle make $20/hr just working at starbucks.

                  And keep in mind my rent is basically 1 room.

          • KaRunChiy
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            15 hours ago

            Again, the “how you live” thing again, in your opinion, what is the “correct” way to live?

    • @[email protected]
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      Moving is a privilege,

      Poor people move all the time. It’s a fucking wild take to call moving a privilege. Though I do agree with the last bit about sometimes (or maybe even often) being in a worse position than before

      • Boomer Humor Doomergod
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        196 hours ago

        I read something in The Atlantic about how people used to move about every three years and that sounds insane to me.

        And also, the phrase “I just read something thing in The Atlantic” makes me feel even older than my gout and shingles.

        • @[email protected]
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          22 hours ago

          When I was young we averaged moving every 4.5 years, but for reasons, I got very accustomed to changing environments every year or so, and as an adult I’ve struggled to stay in one place for the clean start it offers, but moving is so expensive now, and I don’t like driving anywhere near enough to be a nomad van dweller type.

          I can maybe do it one more time in the near future, assuming money and housing values don’t tank first, but that’s probably it for the rest of my days. I hope it really scratches the anxious itch for change, cuz if not…

        • @crank0271
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          126 hours ago

          You’re going to have to rename yourself to Boomer Humor Doomergod. (Sorry about the gout and shingles.)

      • @dariusj18
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        176 hours ago

        I have a feeling the poors don’t move to different cities/states that often.