Hey Folks!

I’ve been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here’s a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there’s a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don’t know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don’t tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

  • @[email protected]
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    441 year ago

    To be as clear as possible - the minimum wage for tipped staff is $2.13/hr. That’s why you have to tip.

    • Mike
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      311 year ago

      This is deceiving though. In The US tipping is literally everywhere now.

      If you are waited on, I. E. Sat at a table or served at a bar, tipping is expected. If you go to a counter and place an order and someone hands you something while you’re standing there, those workers aren’t making 2.13/hr.

      • @Protegee9850
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        91 year ago

        No way in hell am I tipping when I pick up food from a counter. Call me an asshole. I don’t care. Blame your boss.

        • @Squizzy
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          21 year ago

          This is how the rest of us feel with all tipping, blame your boss why should I pay you

      • R0cket_M00se
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        81 year ago

        I don’t tip if there’s no service being provided. Bringing my food to my table after I ordered it from a kiosk and filled up my own drink at the soda fountain doesn’t qualify.

      • @[email protected]
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        31 year ago

        And this isn’t universal either. For example, Culver’s will bring your food out to you but you don’t tip. So I would add that if you’re waited on and pay for the meal AFTER eating and being waited on, then you tip.

    • Jake Farm
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      181 year ago

      Not true, restuarants have to make up the difference in their wage if they dont make enough in tips.

        • @joe
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          101 year ago

          It’s definitely not enough to live on, but that’s beside the point, isn’t it? I don’t tip any other people because they earn minimum wage-- do you? The point is that the person isn’t actually making only $2/hr-- they’re making at least minimum wage, with the opportunity to make more via tips.

          Tipping needs to end, and the laws changed to reflect it.

          • @ch00f
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            01 year ago

            Being a waiter is a skilled job that deserves more than minimum wage.

            • @joe
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              81 year ago

              I don’t disagree, but that is irrelevant to the discussion, is it not?

              • @ch00f
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                11 year ago

                That’s just my response to the argument that you can choose to not tip because waiters will make minimum wage regardless. Minimum wage is not an appropriate salary for that line of work.

                However, yes, I agree that laws should be changed to remove tipping or at least to require restaurant owners to pay an appropriate wage for the work with optional tips on top for exceptional service.

                • @joe
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                  81 year ago

                  Is it a customer’s responsibility to ensure an employee gets paid enough?

                  • @ch00f
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                    11 year ago

                    Like I said, the laws around tipping need to be changed. In the meantime, the laws are set up so that yes, it is expected that the customer makes the employee’s wage livable.

        • @Today
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          11 year ago

          This! My son worked the day shift at waffle house for awhile making about $5/hr in wag+ tips. . I think they have been sued for not paying the difference to employees, but a lawsuit 3 years later doesn’t help when your rent was due last month.

    • @[email protected]
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      151 year ago

      This does depend on which state you’re in (some states don’t have a “tipped wage”), but the vast majority of service workers are not raking in the big bucks, so be generous if you can!

      • @[email protected]
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        31 year ago

        Oregon has kind of a hybrid tipped wage. There’s a minimum tipped wage, but if tips don’t add up to at least the regular minimum wage then the establishment needs to make up the tips for the shift.

    • @[email protected]
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      1 year ago

      A higher federal minimum wage would solve this problem. Employers are required by law to make up the difference between the base wage and the federal minimum wage ($7.25/hr) if nobody tips.

      But obviously $7.25 isn’t a living wage either, so any tipped employee that actually makes the federal minimum is living almost entirely on tips.

      https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/wages/wagestips

        • @[email protected]
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          31 year ago

          Fair point. And this is why unions are beneficial to the working class, and also why shitty companies like Starbucks try to bust unions.

          • R0cket_M00se
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            11 year ago

            Good unions, yeah. Let’s not let the idea of unions in general distract from the fact that they can also suck. Some take too much in dues for what they actually accomplish for their employees, and others can just straight up protect bad people from consequences.

            In fact, police unions are exactly why cops get away with literal murder.