I agree they should do whatever makes them comfortable. I also 100% acknowledge that this is a me problem, but I find it very “distracting” in a sexy way. I suspect I just need to get used to it and I’m here for that journey.
If you noticed and are distracted (and you’re not the only one), I’d argue that it’s a them problem not a you problem. If you’re “dressed up professionally for an office environment”, that dress code is supposed to be boring, conservative, modest clothing. I personally hate workplaces like that, but if that’s the kind of place you work, then that’s the expectation.
Assuming what you found distracting were nipples, there are ways of not wearing bras while still keeping nipples hidden or at least discrete. If someone’s supposed to be “dressed up professionally for an office job”, it’s reasonable to say that someone who isn’t making an effort to hide her nipples isn’t meeting the dress code. It would be the same if a guy came in wearing a skin-tight shirt from Father Sons.
I would love it if we lived in a world where workplaces just let people wear the clothing that made them comfortable, but until we reach that world, people who have to dress conservatively for a business environment are going to have to cover up.
I grew up before the trend of women being required to have shapeless lumps for breasts and welcome with my whole heart the demise of the foam padded bras and gods damned, horrifyingly named “modesty pads”. There is no way that having nipples should be considered unprofessional but here we are. I don’t like the look of the lumps and don’t like the implication that only the unnatural smooth look is professional.
I think it’s way more stigmatized in the US than it is in the EU, for example. I’ve seen a lot of nips in professional settings that I find shocking, but only because it’s made me realize how much it is sexualized? in the US. Which is weird.
I agree they should do whatever makes them comfortable. I also 100% acknowledge that this is a me problem, but I find it very “distracting” in a sexy way. I suspect I just need to get used to it and I’m here for that journey.
Yeah, just like bare shoulders and ankles, I think people will get used to it over time.
If you noticed and are distracted (and you’re not the only one), I’d argue that it’s a them problem not a you problem. If you’re “dressed up professionally for an office environment”, that dress code is supposed to be boring, conservative, modest clothing. I personally hate workplaces like that, but if that’s the kind of place you work, then that’s the expectation.
Assuming what you found distracting were nipples, there are ways of not wearing bras while still keeping nipples hidden or at least discrete. If someone’s supposed to be “dressed up professionally for an office job”, it’s reasonable to say that someone who isn’t making an effort to hide her nipples isn’t meeting the dress code. It would be the same if a guy came in wearing a skin-tight shirt from Father Sons.
I would love it if we lived in a world where workplaces just let people wear the clothing that made them comfortable, but until we reach that world, people who have to dress conservatively for a business environment are going to have to cover up.
I grew up before the trend of women being required to have shapeless lumps for breasts and welcome with my whole heart the demise of the foam padded bras and gods damned, horrifyingly named “modesty pads”. There is no way that having nipples should be considered unprofessional but here we are. I don’t like the look of the lumps and don’t like the implication that only the unnatural smooth look is professional.
I think it’s way more stigmatized in the US than it is in the EU, for example. I’ve seen a lot of nips in professional settings that I find shocking, but only because it’s made me realize how much it is sexualized? in the US. Which is weird.
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