• @jedibob5
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      Huh, so the “cishet ADHD person that just happens to keep ending up in overwhelmingly-LGBTQ+ friend groups” thing isn’t just me? Interesting…

      • @[email protected]
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        122 months ago

        Nice to see that I’m not the only cishet person here.

        …okay, this sounds weird, reading out loud.

      • @beejboytyson
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        72 months ago

        Two of my friends transitioned. Starting to think it’s me. I turn people trans.

        • @jedibob5
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          One of my childhood best friends transitioned and another came out as bi. I think a lot of it is just that people with ADHD and/or on the spectrum tend to get along really well with other ADHD/spectrum people. Since those traits heavily overlap with also being LGBTQ+, those who don’t fall into that overlap end up making friends in their youth with a lot of people who eventually come out later once they figure themselves out.

    • db0OPM
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      242 months ago

      Nah, I’m straight as well, friend

      • @[email protected]
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        212 months ago

        Same, but at the end of the day, we’re all just humans trying to figure out how to do our human stuff and feel kinda ok about ourselves. I don’t at all mean to be dismissive of queer-identifiers, but I do think that’s one of the less important facets of this post. Not unimportant to be clear - it’s just that I personally feel 100% of everything there, save for the fact that at this point in my life I’m quite confident I’m just not at all into the male form, in an intimate sense.

  • @NegativeInf
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    572 months ago

    This attack is so personal it feels like a wrote it myself.

    Can we all start a club so I can find a boyfriend? Lol.

    • @[email protected]
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      But we have a club at home!

      Club at home:

      I’ve been single for far too long as well lol

    • db0OPM
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      172 months ago

      This is your club now!

    • @[email protected]
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      92 months ago

      there’s the global trans polycule that i’ve heard about 😉 spreading the word 😚😚

    • @SirDerpy
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      Can we all start a club so I can find a boyfriend?

      It was one of the first Lemmy instances. It still exists in such a format, now mostly defederated.

  • @[email protected]
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    322 months ago

    I have the ability to make others feel safe and comfortable to be their themselves. It’s always a shock to me how comfortable some people get around me. I’m still waiting for someone to make me feel the same way.

    • db0OPM
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      202 months ago

      I’ve had friends in my home country who were crying at my immigration going away party, because they said I always make a comfortable and enjoyable environment around me.

  • Windows_Error_Noises
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    Mannnnnn, every time I see one of these, I feel like I’m really missing out by not being bisexual. Damn. Guess I’ll buy more books! Anyone want some tea or an iced coffee? You doing okay? Need anything? I’ll totally run out in the rain, to get whatever you could possibly need to make your life better, if only for a moment. Really, I’m offering.

      • @HeyThisIsntTheYMCA
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        122 months ago

        Sorry pal. new homosexual agenda’s in. Everybody’s gotta be bi.

        • @SkyezOpen
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          I unironically do finger guns and tuck a foot under me when I sit so according to the internet I’m already bi. Super easy, didn’t even have to suck any dicks to get here.

          • Windows_Error_Noises
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            Shit. Does that goes for ladies, too? Cause I might need to have a long talk with myself. Can it work that way? Can I instantly give myself another level of beautiful existential pain, like my bi friends?

    • @spirinolas
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      I feel the same about wanting to be bi. Double the fun!

      I actually have a friend who felt the same way. For years he talked how one of those days he was going to get it on with a dude just to make sure he didn’t swing both ways. I couldn’t argue with his logic, how can we be sure if we never tried?

      One day he put his money where his mouth was. Now he’s sure he’s not bi and no longer talks about it XD

      • Ketram
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        Tbh, I was part of a very LGBTQA+ group of people, but I was one of the very few just straight people. I made out with a lot of dudes and that was enough for me to tell that I wasn’t into it. Didn’t feel that same heart-thumping feeling that I feel with a person of the opposite sex.

        I do still kind of wish I was bi just to see what it’s like. But I’m straighter than an arrow

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    Had to have an hour conversation with my therapist because the urge to help other people has me questioning the value of my work. Guess I will go sit in my library and think about it while it rains.

    • @feedum_sneedson
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      82 months ago

      It looks like you’re doing fine mate, congratulations.

    • @[email protected]
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      Oh, giving away labour, actual effective labour that measurably helps someone, yet after so long only the receivers benefit in life from it (no duh), its super demoralising on a personal level & can def be a considerable factor in the depression feedback loop.

    • ComradeSharkfucker
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      32 months ago

      You have a cooler library than me, I’ll get there one day… when I have the money to buy the books I want

      • @[email protected]
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        42 months ago

        Well its 2 middle aged lifetimes of collecting and my partner and I are both avid readers. Sadly its a mess right now as the kids have been using every flat space in the house for some type of construction, but I still like to sit there and read or watch/listen to the 3d printer. I also could really use a librarian who can organize it because im the wrong person for that.

    • @Masta_Chief
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      22 months ago

      Looks like you could use some book ends so everything doesn’t slump over when you take a book. There’s lots of fun and creative ones. Unless you like the tilted book aesthetic in which case carry on

      • @AlpacaChariot
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        12 months ago

        I like it like this, looks very cosy!

      • @[email protected]
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        42 months ago

        I would but its my grandfathers collection of reference books and I want to try to keep as much of that history for my children as possible.

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    I’m more enbyace and like computer bits and books, but basically the same. My ideal living space is either a hobbit hole in a temperate rainforest, a renovated convenience store well above the arctic circle within a Finnish forest, or a forgotten Sinclair gas station (with the dinosaur and everything) in the middle of the New Mexican desert.

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    Thats how I (unintentionally) see all people - either fucked by life & they appreciate it when they can do something good for another, or assholes (most commonly with a silver spoon of various sizes up those same holes).

    Some people want to make others laugh, others just want to laugh.

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    122 months ago

    I’m feeling incredibly called out right now.

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      Same but instead of books it’s cars, computers, and home theater. None of which I can actually afford.

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    …why do I relate so much with the “✨MAKE PEOPLE FEEL GOOD WITH THEMSELVES✨” part?

    At least I only try to do this on The Web™️.

  • @captainlezbian
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    I’d feel very called out here but I’m homosexual not bi.

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    That’s when it’s time for the evil bitch phase. What you thinking about others all the time has ever done for you? It’s time to stop caring and embrace selfishness. Your evil bitch phase will be normal people mode anyway cause baseline is so skewed towards making other people accommodated. It’s simple and brilliant if I say so myself.
    No more eggshells walking

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      That’s often impossible for ASD-people. I can’t turn that part of my brain off. Instead , I channel my hate for injustice towards radicalism.

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        Maybe it would be better for everyone else if instead of online radicalism you would actually do something good irl if you don’t already. I am under impression that many online people are all words but no action.

        And there’s is a lot of help needed out there, a lot from homeless animals to elderly. It all runs on heroes.

        The talk is cheap but what matters is what you actually do

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          All my leisure time goes to direct action for mutual aid. Don’t assume stuff about others.

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    And very important as well. Make the ones causing pain in this world know of your disapproval.

  • @Aeri
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    Can anyone explain the rain one

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      Sound doesn’t travel as far through warm humid air, so the world feels a little more muted and calm. (Contrast this with the dry, dense air of a frigid winter day, when the sound of cars carries for miles as a dull growl.) The light is almost entirely diffuse thanks to clouds, rather than the sharp glare of a sunny day; your skin isn’t dried out and burned in the same way either. Public spaces aren’t as crowded. Indoor rooms are often lighted more gently as well without sharp sunbeams drawing lines. Add the sound of rain itself and the faint smell of petrichor, and the improvement in the air quality as the rain washes particulate and pollen into the gutters, and you get a perfect day to curl up with a book, a cup of tea, and a cat on your lap.

    • @Maggoty
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      White noise drowns out bad noise. You can get the same effect with a fan at the right setting.