Woah stop making men feel safe and seen. Next thing they’ll become feminists, or worse, empathetic and caring humans!
abusers are trash, no matter what their gender. May they all rot.
I was once seeing a girl for a couple weeks that FUCKING ROOFIED MY DRINK so she could look through my phone while I was lying there watching her unable to move. It was absolutely fucked.
Good thing you managed to stay conscious, holy shit!
Didn’t even know that was possibleThat’s horrible, I hope you’re doing better now
I’m married now, and this was over a decade ago. As soon as I was able to function again I kicked her out of my house and never spoke to her again.
From « a couple weeks ago », to « I’m married now » oh boy, that escalated quickly but then I saw the decades word! Good for you you were able to ditch this abuser.
Edit: ha, I misread the whole thing, my bad
Really applies to most things. I’m not a dude, trans woman, but I’ve gotten sexually harassed a lot both pre and post transition and the response I got pre and post transition is night and day. Pretransition people treated me like I was crazy for feeling unsafe and like I was supposed to enjoy it.
Honestly, men should be allowed to feel unsafe around women, or really allowed to feel unsafe in general, and be taken seriously for it.One downfall of what I only hesitantly refer to as modern feminism (although really I’m talking about terfs and the terf-adjacent) is that it has painted men as dangerous by default. I’m also a trans woman so I’ve seen both sides of the coin, too… I do feel less safe now, this is true. Many things were easier when I was living as a man. But I was never dangerous or an abuser.
Nonetheless, a former partner used accusations of abuse against me and turned so many people on me. The only ones that stuck by me were former romantic partners, who knew the accusations couldn’t have been true. For everyone else, it was so easy to accept that a man - even a clearly gentle one - would be an abuser.
In reality I’ve been a victim of abuse - physical, emotional, sexual… All long before I transitioned.
I hear you. I’m working voluntarily with (mostly) women who were abused horribly. Also mostly from an early child’s age on to the point of being utterly broken. Fear of men is not only officially a thing in the ICD but also more or less the norm amongst those. The prejudice against me (2m wardrobe with a resting bitch face) is always palpable and always takes so much time to gain trust. Sometimes it’s just impossible and that’s very sad.
Long story short: yes. It’s easy to prejudge men to be abusers. Sadly because most abuser probably are men. But it’s also important to be able to see that not all of us are.
Also sorry to hear that. And i can totally see that happening…
I can understand it in those that have been abused, even if I disagree. And I suppose unfortunately that is such a huge portion of people, especially women. I even see it in myself - despite seeing the reasons, I can’t help but feel at least a little concern when I pass a man in the street. I mean, I feel a little when I pass women too, but it’s a very different fear. From men I fear violence, from women only rejection or disrespect.
It seems an impossible situation, another cycle of abuse. I hope we can find a way out, but I don’t know at all what it is.
An abusive partner accusing the other of cheating is very often a projection of the fact they themselves had been cheating. Since they know they would cheat, and were/are, they either assume the other person is the same way, or simply don’t want to draw attention to their affair. It’s an awful thing.
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Thanks for posting this! Being male and being abused is a very isolating experience on many levels. I wish good things upon you, friend.
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I am hoping for better things and healthier relationships in your future
But the only place men have to go to is an imaginary fish thing.
Blobfish are real
Unfortunately the image of them around the internet and educational book aren’t. Those are what left of them after getting drag into the atmosphere they’re not used to in high speed. It’s like showing a decayed corpse of human and say “this is what human actually looks like”.
So what you’re saying is that the natural habitat of Roger Ailes was the bottom of the sea? I agree, but for different reasons 😉
And the fish in the comic wasn’t at the bottom of the ocean.
What would the man have looked like at the bottom of the ocean? Maybe more like that decayed corpse?
By that logic maybe we should only draw dinosaur as bone because we never seen them in their prime.
No, by that logic you should draw dinosaur as bone if they are in a situation where their flesh is gone.
Well, yes, you should draw dinosaur bone if your intention is to draw dinosaur bone.
You leave blobby alone. He is trying his best.
Poor thing’s been ripped from its habitat into this cruel low pressure environment .
Return all the Alarmos to the sea from whence they came.
I guess if she’s suspecting other women, it’s up to the bros to be there for him. Remember to support your bros and get them to seek help! (There’s nothing unmanly about heart to hearts about abuse).
Always remember…
This is kind of just victim-blaming though?
That’s derogatory towards people who have mental health issues, though, most of whom are MUCH more likely to be victims of abuse than perpetrators.
Why is never in quotes?? What is this implying?
There can be a positive “crazy” but it’s quite a gamble
Where is this “safe place to go” you mention?
Alcohol
“I just wish someone was there for me”
The bottle of Jack Daniels in my car cupholder:
Wtf is that pink blob though
A blob fish.
One of nature’s most aptly named creatures
They only look that way thanks to explosive decompression. Most blobfish are pulled up too quickly and end up expanding like that. At their normal pressures they look like almost any other fish.
“Yeah, just Candice…”
