Just a thought I had, like what can a ten year old do(besides mass murder & accidents) that messes up their life so badly that it is unrecoverable?

It has to be something that is self inflicted and not something that is the cause of others around them.

  • @Sanctus
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    914 hours ago

    You’re never too young to die, so the saying goes.

    • XIIIesq
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      To be fair, OP is asking about bad/poor/wrong decisions, the last sentence of their post specifically says it’s not about situations that are inflicted upon them. No one gets to choose where they are born.

  • @[email protected]
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    1717 hours ago

    Being conceived by shitty people is more than enough to have a life arguably ruined permanently before it even began.

    So much can happen to ruin a person’s life at any stage, even pre-conception.

    • XIIIesq
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      OP is asking about wrong/bad/poor choices etc, the last sentence of their post specifically says it’s not about situations that are inflicted upon them.

  • @[email protected]
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    4022 hours ago

    I was watching a Netflix documtary about killers, the guy said he was on drugs by age 9…so pretty sure that messed up his life before the murder. It is debatable on if surroundings or self choices are why you try drugs I guess.

    • Diplomjodler
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      It takes a certain kind of environment to enable that.

      • XIIIesq
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        Right, “should I do drugs?” is not a typical choice for a 9 year old to have to make, they should be protected from that. I have heard stories of particularly shitty parents giving drugs to their own young children.

        • Diplomjodler
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          Well, if Nancy said so, it must be true.

  • @Carrolade
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    2822 hours ago

    Any significant injury that results in paralysis would be a potential candidate. These become possible as soon as you become old enough to climb things like trees.

    • Haus
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      A kid in my class put his arm inside a… I don’t remember if it was a lion or tiger cage back on the 70s before safety was a thing. Being armless isn’t the end, but I bet he regretted that decision.

      • @[email protected]
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        There went all his hopes for an army career. No more pitching for the Mets. No more professional arm wrestling. No more rowing competitions, or stirring huge pots of gruel.

    • @[email protected]
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      If you’re not born rich you can become rich (or “comfortable”) later in life. It doesn’t mess you up forever.

      • @[email protected]
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        515 hours ago

        No, sorry, we actually just sold out of upward mobility. Our next shipment comes in never though, maybe you can come back then?

        • XIIIesq
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          Despite declining social mobility, mke_geek makes a fair point, being born poor isn’t absolutely guaranteed to mean that you won’t be able to have a meaningful or fullfilling life. I’m sure that many people who are born in remote villages with a subsistence lifestyle, that we would view as living in poverty, are happier than many people who are born in “first world” countries.

          Anyway, OP is asking about choices, not situations that are inflicted upon them.

      • @GeneralEmergency
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        Hey now, that sounds like a lot of work that’ll get into the way of my doom scrolling and being a miserable bastard time

  • SpaceFox:3
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    Drugs at any age. Sure you can get clean but it takes a very pacific type of person to do that and there are more people who have failed then ones who have succeeded. I made the mistake of using drugs at a young age and it has destroyed my life beyond repair. If there are any young people reading this just remember it’s not worth it. Trust me nobody hates drugs more then drugheads.

  • @Retro_unlimited
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    I remember as a kid, I met these other kids that would drink from the side of the street. That sewer water was full of nasty including gas and oil runoff from the roads and who knows what else.

    I also had an ex that would drink the chemicals under the sink as a tiny kid.

  • @Death_Equity
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    2522 hours ago

    Playing with fireworks, firearms, or chemicals can be a solid way for anyone of any age to ruin their life.

    • @[email protected]
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      421 hours ago

      But doesn’t that count as an accident? Kids who play with fireworks don’t cram a steel can full of black powder imagining how cool it would be to loose your fingers and eyes.

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        Maybe kids are too short sighted to see the risk, but who says they don’t do that? Among the stupid things I did as a kid was try to turn any tube into a gun/cannon/firework mortar, and hold it in my hands to aim and launch. We even had the benefit of my grandfather losing a couple fingers as a cautionary tale, that we completely ignored. If something happened, could you really call that an accident?

        Or the time we were playing with fireworks …. In a barn full of dry hay? I don’t know how my grandfather let us live after that one

        …… but there’s a threshold of stupidity where you really can’t call it an accident. I’m happy to have survived in one piece all too many bouts of stupidity but the adult me wouldn’t call it an accident if something happened

        • @[email protected]
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          Hmm. I guess there is a category that isn’t entirely premeditated and intentional, nor is it a freak accident either. It’s sort of like an accident, but it’s caused be reckless stupidity, as opposed to something beyond your control.

          As people have noticed, there are lots of reckless decisions that can ruin your life. I guess that fits the description of what OP was looking for.

  • @[email protected]
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    1220 hours ago

    Be born a woman in Afghanistan… come out the womb to “And that’s when she knew she had fucked up.”

    I’m not certain if this is in the spirit of your question but even a murderer in the US has privileges denied to a lot of other people.

  • @[email protected]
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    1222 hours ago

    Actually, the younger you fuck up, the worse are the consequences. A 13 year old go in a school fight, he is kicked out of school, has to go in another school further away, sleep less, see his grade fall down, and next year he’ll be pushed to start an apprenticeship rather than high school.

    A 31 one year old (otherwise a good citizen) does the same. He’ll spend a night in police custody and at worst pays a fine (with a high probability that change are dropped because judges and prosecutor are busy)

    • @[email protected]OP
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      1122 hours ago

      I agree with your general point but I don’t agree with your example because apprenticeship can still lead to stable employment and a fulfilling life

  • @[email protected]
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    622 hours ago

    what can a ten year old do(besides mass murder & accidents) that messes up their life so badly that it is unrecoverable?

    kill their own parents (it’s not technically mass murder until you’ve killed three people).

  • Juntti
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    522 hours ago

    About -9 months, you did not let others pass.

  • @[email protected]
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    Whatever the country’s age of criminal conviction (typically 18). It’s hard enough to get a job WITHOUT a criminal record.

    Depending on the country and/or crime, a juvenile record will also prevent being able to work in certain jobs/industries.