I believe the old Internet can provide us with the most appropriate response:
“Shut up and make me a sammich.”
I love how the men who can’t help but pipe up about how “ackchyually” this isn’t the case because reasons all magically happen to anecdotally be the statistical anomalies of what decades of research (not to mention their reflexive reaction) has repeatedly proven is a real problem that exists across all walks of life.
Like pretty much all posts about anything even remotely feminism related, it is a self selection mechanism that they just can’t help but react to.
Sometimes there are benefits to being an androgynous transfemme with an unfortunate case of “Dr. Girlfriend Voice”
As a child watching venture bros I never questioned Dr girlfriends voice. Actually watching through as an adult, def made me lulz
If I get interrupted talking 3 times in a meeting I get up and walk out. This isnt beers with the boys or brunch with the gals, if my opinion cant be respected in full I have work to do.
I’ve worked remotely for years. With the “raise hand” options its usually a very “talking pillow” type of taking turns.
Rarely there’s back and forth but it’s clear when someone talks over another and you can thankfully mute people.
women aren’t special ; i talk over everybody
The woman in my dept talks over me and the other dude all the time, she’s very interrupt-y. She’s great though we still love her, funny af and knowledgeable. It certainly isn’t gender specific.
SORRY WHAT? I COULDN’T HEAR YOUR COMMENT.
Could it be “over another person”? Asshollery is kinda universal
This. The worst person I’ve ever worked with happened to be a woman. She was an awful human being.
That’s odd because I don’t often see men talk over other men at meetings, but women can’t generally finish a sentence without a man trying to talk over her.
I don’t know where you work but I have seen it all the time. There tends to be a whole back and forth. One thing I hate though is the folks who are like im not finished and your like ok finish and then they add nothing unique over what they already said.
The latter kind of person is the one who makes these sorts of memes.
In my experience of being the person who always gets talked over, women do it just as much as men :(
Record yourself speaking and you might see where you should improve. You might have long gaps, or unclear body language, or you’re quiet, etc
Or tits.
Tits definitely help lmao
That’s odd. I always see it the other way around and men don’t speak up for themselves because the loud woman then tries to play this card, so everyone just has to take the abuse.
You can try say, “Bec, you need to let people finish, especially if they’re answering you.”
But a complaint will go to HR.
Funnily enough the organisation I frequently sub to is the diametric opposite of that - it’s normally the women telling the men to stfu and concentrate on the matter being discussed. Us men are a belligerent lot, though, but we do get the job done and none of us have nanked each other yet. Fingers crossed.
In all fairness, there was 12 minutes left in the meeting and Bob has been waiting for the seniority members to shut up for 24 minutes to get a single word in edgewise.
I’m so guilty of talking over other people and I hate it. Please fix me.
I’m in the same boat, but one day I just stopped talking and started listening, mostly as a social experiment on myself. Now everyone thinks that I’m really smart. It tears me up inside sometimes, but I like the outcome.
“Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.”
If they had something more important to say they would say it louder
Especially in online meetings with no camera. Without seeing body language, I often think people are done talking so I start talking, but they were just resting between sentences. Oof.
Online is the worst–I think the slight delay is a big factor as well. We both start before either realizes the other was speaking and it’s very uncomfortable.
But also I’m just a bad interrupter. I often have an idea I’m so excited about I just blurt it out without even thinking about the fact that someone else is in the middle of speaking. I don’t know why I’m like this, I’ve tried to stop and I have made some progress but it still happens way too much. Best progress I’ve made so far is rudely start talking, realize 1 second later I should not have, apologize, and tell the other person to keep going.
One thing that kinda helped for me is realising that nobody will care about my point, if they’re still thinking about the point they want to make themselves. Realising that helps me wait.
Only downside is that I then sometimes miss other points, and sometimes also forget my own point still.
Have you’ve been checked for adhd? I have some friends with it and they tell me about similar scenarios
I’ve had a lot of people, including professionals hypothesize that I might have it. When I was younger I was very opposed to psychiatry and behavior altering meds so I didn’t really take them seriously or cooperate with their attempts to find out. But I think it’s possible.
I’ll echo what others are suggesting and say give it a look.
I went undiagnosed for years and really struggled with a number of things. I’d talk over people, interrupt, and finish peoples sentences (to name a few that may resonate with you.) I was consciously aware of what I was doing and frequently battled the urge to do it. I eventually went and got diagnosed …and holy hell what a difference it made. It was no longer urgent to express an idea before it was lost to the “noise.” It wouldn’t hurt to speak with a doctor / specialist about it; you have nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain.
It’s not the crime people claim it to be IF you aren’t trying to deliberately down others out.
Realizing you want to improve is the first step to growing into a better person!
ADHD symptom
Or normal human thing that happens to be applicable to a large current spreading self diagnosis community.
Don’t diagnose others.
OP isn’t wrong: It is an ADHD symptom.
As it happens most ADHD symptoms are normal human things …just with the logic/priority controller broken. Offering an observation isn’t diagnosing - it’s providing a conversation point. Maybe bring it down a notch there man.
There are things to get preachy about: this ain’t one of em.
Have you tried Adderall or strattera?
The first option offered should not be lifelong drugs to take.
That’s why I waited until four other people replied. Thanks for looking out.
Op seems to be on a bit of a crusade - don’t let it get to ya. While I’ll agree that recommending drugs specifically isn’t particularly helpful: I imagine you made the recommendation because you believe that the poster may have ADHD… which could be a thing they may want to look into. A lot of people go undiagnosed and are positively miserable as a result. It wouldn’t hurt to edit your original post with:
strikeoutand clarify your reasoning. I think your heart was in the right place ✌️It’s a crusade to push back on negative habits I see around me? What makes it a crusade instead of just pushback against a normalization inside this community that doesn’t always help and the trend-ization of a medical issue that shouldn’t be a fad?
I agreed with your perspective on not suggesting drugs, however you seemed equally defensive about the mere mention of ADHD as well. It is perfectly acceptable to suggest to someone they get checked for it if they are struggling with some very common symptoms. OP was genuinely looking for suggestions there and a number of people had the same suggestion. Seemed reasonable enough to me.
As far as “fad” goes- It’s been thoroughly researched and isolated down to a specific chemical imbalance. Is it common? yes- but it’s also been suggested that a lot of current environments are designed to fuck with your attention; Someone with ADHD would be far less able to cope with it. Perhaps it’s just more noticeable now.
Alright. I agree with everything you say.
I dislike the idea of drugs as a “fix” as they are not and the idea of fixing is not very reasonable an end goal.
Also yes the world is designed to pick at that and it clearly is affecting and dragging down people further up the spectrum of capable time management. This culture of recommending specific name brand drugs is not one I am comfortable with and one I don’t agree with doing as it really only supports the manufacturer and not the sufferer.
I think we agree that people should be able to get real and helpful diagnoses but I disagree the path of getting there that is often used skipping steps and is far to socially spread, especially using the same mechanisms that eat at people to make their symptoms worse.
and only woman because the same dude does not talk over everyone.
/s ?
(just assuming as I had a similar sarcastic response to this comic)
