• magnetosphere
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    I actually had to pause a movie once and re-explain that that I’d never seen it before, either.

    edit: the amount of upvotes this comment has gotten both validates and saddens me

  • @[email protected]
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    My 8 year old does this. Most of the time it’s during movies I’ve already watched so I could answer her questions. But fuck man, just watch the movie and it will answer your questions. We spend more time talking about what’s happening than watching/listening 🤦

      • @[email protected]
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        We usually do end up talking for most of the movie. I guess I kind of do like doing that with her. I absolutely love your comment. Thank you for changing my perspective.

  • Instantnudeln
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    Its called rhetorical question. Mate is just thinking loud.

    I’m that friend and I’m really sorry. I cant control it. :(

    • Karyoplasma
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      I have a friend like this too. I just stopped going to the movies with him because I want to stay friends.

      • Instantnudeln
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        Well in cinemas I’m obviously silent because there are strangers. I just like to talk when watching movies together privatly.

        I think its really nice when the movie is a total brainfuck to make theorys with friends. If you just want to sit there in total silence even in private situations you could just watch the movie alone.

        • @Soggy
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          So you can control it. And yes I usually just watch the movie alone.

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            So you can control it.

            Yea its called I-dont-want-a-fist-in-my-face-Syndrom. So it works in public.

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          Nah, that’s ok. When you “watch a movie” at home with a group of people, you are not really watching a movie. It just serves as background noise and as an easy fallback for someone that doesn’t want to participate in the conversation.

    • @[email protected]
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      I do this too, I’m thinking aloud. My girlfriend scolds me for “spoilers”, which is funny because I’m just guessing what is going to happen based on other stuff I’ve seen.

      Not my fault writers are terribly unimaginative lol

  • @Starkstruck
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    “Why is-”

    “I don’t know, it’s almost like the movie is intentionally setting up questions to be answered later when the plot calls for it!”

  • @[email protected]
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    I google the plot of the movie and ruin the ending in my answers to those questions. Now they’re a lot more careful with asking questions.

    • @afraid_of_zombies
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      You are about one lab accident away from becoming a supervillain aren’t you? But not the normal kind, the kind that people sorta see their pov.

  • Ech
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    My family does this. Even if I have watched it, if it’s a movie worth watching, it’s gonna answer all necessary questions. Just give it some damn time!

    • @daemoz
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      Still waiting for an answer to the Italian job. I should’ve asked more questions honestly.

      • @15liam20
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        I think that he was only supposed to blow the fucking doors off.

    • @[email protected]
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      My family does this because they didn’t bother to pay attention so I actually do know better than them what’s going on

  • kamen
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    Maybe they got something that you missed. I often miss details like that.

  • @[email protected]
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    If I do this I’m not expecting you to know the answer, I just want to discuss our thoughts. What’s wrong with that?

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      What’s wrong with that?

      Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical. You aren’t the only person in the world. We’re both watching the movie and we’re both equally as confused. When you ask those questions what you’re doing is interrupting the movie for someone else to demand an explanation for yourself. An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused. Other people are watching the movie too. Interrupting it to try and get answers for yourself is some narcissistic behavior, especially when you’re in a movie theater with shitloads of other people around you.

      Moreover, during the middle of the movie is not the place to have a discussion. People are trying to watch it and enjoy it, not listen to some breakdown about the events so far. If you want to have those discussions then keep it for after the movie when attention can be properly given to the discussion, not a half whispered response in a tone of “Dude, can you shut up?”

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        Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical.

        I can imagine coming over to a friend’s place or to a date and just sitting there in absolute silence watching a movie instead of you know, hanging out and talking stuff

        Your friend is probably more interesting in hanging out with you than strictly watching a movie lol

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        An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused.

        Did you read my comment? I said I don’t expect you to know the answer, I just want to hear your thoughts. If you don’t want to talk during movies then watch them alone.

        • StametsOP
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          And did you read mine? There was more to it than that single line.

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            Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical. You aren’t the only person in the world. We’re both watching the movie and we’re both equally as confused.

            I don’t expect you to be less confused, I don’t expect you to know the answer

            When you ask those questions what you’re doing is interrupting the movie for someone else to demand an explanation for yourself.

            Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

            An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused.

            Again, I don’t expect you to know the answer

            Other people are watching the movie too. Interrupting it to try and get answers for yourself is some narcissistic behavior, especially when you’re in a movie theater with shitloads of other people around you.

            Lmao do you think I would be screaming that question throughout the entire theatre?

            If you want to have those discussions then keep it for after the movie

            It’s not about a discussion it’s about speculation. There’s no point in speculation when the movie is over, all answers are given unless if there’s a second movie coming.

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              Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

              Ah right, of course, because exposition only happens in scenes with dialog. The non-dialog scenes are just there purely for looks.

            • @mriormro
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              Honestly, how difficult is it for you to just keep your mouth from opening for ~90 minutes?

              • @TrousersMcPants
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                Christ, why is everyone being so antagonistic to a guy for enjoying movies a different way than other people

                • @mriormro
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                  Talking during a movie at a theater isn’t “enjoying movies a different way”. It’s just inconsiderate behavior.

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              I don’t expect you to be less confused, I don’t expect you to know the answer

              Then the discussion is not relevant in the moment and can be saved until after the movie when you are not actively disrupting the movie for other people.

              Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

              What you find personally enjoyable is not universal. While you may focus heavily on dialogue, other people do not. Moreover, things that are in non-dialogue scenes can be just as important, if not VITALLY important, to the movie as dialogue itself. By your logic, every other part of the movie that does not include dialogue is irrelevant to the movie and doesn’t require attention.

              Again, I don’t expect you to know the answer

              Then the discussion is not relevant in the moment and can be saved until after the movie when you are not actively disrupting the movie for other people.

              Lmao do you think I would be screaming that question throughout the entire theatre?

              People are sitting around you on all sides. Unless there is no one near you, then you are going to disrupt the movie for them. There is a reason the trope exists of people saying “SHHH!” to other people talking quietly in movies. It’s because they have ears and can hear you.

              It’s not about a discussion it’s about speculation. There’s no point in speculation when the movie is over, all answers are given unless if there’s a second movie coming.

              Speculation requires you to talk to the other person and for them to talk back to you. You know. Like a discussion. If you’re not expecting a response at all then it just circles back to the point of egotistical and narcissistic by assuming that everyone around you thinks that your idle musings about a movie are more entertaining than the movie itself.

              This entire conversation is pointless and I’m not continuing it any further. What you’re advocating for is some nastygirl behavior that is utterly inconsiderate of everyone else. Let me reflect that energy right back by no longer considering anything you say.

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        Makes for a bit of a boring hangout if you both just sit silently there through the movie. At that point might as well watch it separately and then get together to discuss it.

        Cinema being different of course, you’re not supposed to talk there to begin with

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          Different strokes for different folks I guess. If you like talking during the movie that’s fine, just don’t do it with other people that prefer quiet.

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            I haven’t had anyone invite me over to sit in complete silence yet but I wouldn’t imagine those people want people to come over anyway.

            The problem solves itself hah

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              Yeah everyone in this thread probably being too literal, myself included lol.

              Like, I’m not gonna get mad if someone makes a quick comment or quip during a movie. I’m not asking people to sit there in silence with absolutely no interaction while the movie plays. I’m just asking people to not try and start and maintain a conversation while the movie is playing, which I think is reasonable.

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      Not to say it’s objectively wrong, but if it’s someone like me that you’re watching a movie with, I generally expect quiet. A comment here and there is probably fine in the right context, but constantly breaking into conversation mid-movie is a distraction I don’t really appreciate. Generally, I think it’s important to understand the expectations of everyone involved.

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        yeah sure if they ask me to be quiet I’ll be quiet but then I don’t see the point anymore of watching the movie together

        and yes generally it’s just a few comments but some people can’t even stand that lol

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          Some people just enjoy being around friends, even if they’re not actively engaging each other.

    • @Soggy
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      You’re interrupting the movie and making people miss out. If all agree ahead of time to do a MST3K kinda thing, sure. As a compromise: pause the movie first.

    • @afraid_of_zombies
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      Because movies are dumbed down to the point that anything you can come up with in realtime will be answered eventually, or is a plothole.

  • @hanekam
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    My wife does this all the time. I make her pause and then we chat a bit. Works well

    • @ashok36
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      Yes! If it’s a re-watch then fine, talk all you want. On first watch though, shut. The fuck. Up.

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        Because you’re not actually there for the movie but to spend time with the other person. Theaters are different but then again, there’s a reason it’s a shit way to hangout or go on a date

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            It’s more like an “excuse” to hang out and gives something to do together. But each to their own

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      If you go to the theater to watch a movie then you need to sit down, shut up, and just enjoy the movie. Nobody needs to hear your thoughts in that exact moment. That includes yourself.

      Feel free to discuss the movie afterwards though.

    • StametsOP
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      Literally yes. Minus stuff like laughter, or mild gasps or other reactionary noises.

    • @[email protected]
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      When in theatre, yes, its considerate. When watching stuff with my gf we usually commentate as it goes on

    • @[email protected]
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      I used to but I’ve realized it’s much more fun with occasional comments as long as you can keep it low key.

    • @Soggy
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      Ideally, yes. Discussion is for immediately after.

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        So we can share quiet, non-intrustive reactions and absolutely gush about the movie at the end. The hangout doesn’t end just because the movie’s over. Do you try to talk to the person next to you about the rollercoaster you’re having fun on?

      • The Octonaut
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        Why sit next to someone not watching the movie while they watch the movie and actively interrupt them watching the movie?

          • magnetosphere
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            To share the emotional experiences, and then talk about the story afterwards.

            Or you can talk during the film and have this conversation later:
            “What was that dude so angry about?”
            “I don’t know. We were talking about the previous scene during that scene.”
            “That movie sucked. It was confusing and I just couldn’t get into it.”

      • @Soggy
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        You can be social without constantly hearing yourself talk.

          • @Soggy
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            Sure it is, you’re sharing an experience. It’s exactly the same as going to a theater but the screen is smaller and snacks are cheaper.