• Holyhandgrenade
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      For real, most of the pictures I have of my girlfriend are gorgeous, but she thinks they’re hideous. I wish I could accurately convey to her how beautiful I think she is.

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        Seriously, my wife’s biggest critic is my wife.

        And anybody who bad talks my wife is getting a spanking

        Wait. Oh, nice.

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          When my wife starts criticizing herself I say “Stop! I don’t let anyone talk about my wife that way”

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          Mine as well. You look amazing stop saying that you don’t. Do it so often it is starting to make me feel bad.

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    Well, seems like he wants to be with you, not with your Instagram profile

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      Seeing people’s perfectly curated family albums is always weird to me. Like, you’re not going to capture all the weird, funny, ugly, gross, and human moments either? What’s the point then? Lol.

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    And the boyfriend sees the pics on the bottom like the girlfriend sees the pics on the top.

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      My fave photo of my SO is one she doesn’t like. It brings me so much joy and happiness when I see it.

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      There’s a psychological reason for that. You’re used to seeing yourself in the mirror, so a photo of yourself looks subtly wrong. Reverse a photo of yourself and you immediately look better, but only to you. It’s wrong to everyone else that way.

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        Yup! Been telling people this for years. Similarly, you hate your own voice in recordings because you’re used to how there are bassy undertones that bounce in your head and get added on top of your voice. You can amplify your hearing of the bassier/muffled voice by just covering your ears and speaking.

        Which means the trick for making your voice sound better in recordings is to just give it a touch of low end.

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        That’s definitely part of it! Additionally though, how we feel about someone or something has a significant affect on how we perceive it. Imperfections we may focus on with ourselves (everyone’s their own worst critic) or strangers will be lessened or completely overlooked when viewing things we care for.

        “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

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      She has a boyfriend?

      (SORRY, my old reddit instincts were kicking in!)

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    You want some idealized version of him that doesn’t exsist in motion and conjured up by tricks and self deception.

    He wants you exactly as you are, flaws and all.

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        He’s capture a real moment, not something staged or manipulated to appear better than it is.

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          Lots of photography is making something look better then it is. Lol

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    I miss arethestraightsokay on reddit. Loved watching those aromantic antisocials get offended at other people’s happiness.

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        I’ve seen it ages ago…

        scrolled down most of the way and noped out before the jump. Don’t need that shit at 1am before bed.