They’re not really lying, it’s more like those medieval drawings of exotic animals the artist had clearly never seen before, based purely on rumors and secondhand descriptions.
Yeah like, don’t get me wrong there’s definitely physical qualities that are overall considered more or less desirable for both real and entirely made up reasons (or some combination of both), but it’s not like they make or break your success in life, they just tilt the scales, and they tilt the scales differently in different situations.
Like I’ll be honest I do enjoy a good full head of hair to run my fingers through, but it’s not the be all end all I look for in a partner, it’s one of a bunch of little things that I don’t actually need all of in a partner. Yeah the more little things I find attractive about them, the more attractive I’ll find the whole package. Meanwhile my mother has mentioned to me multiple times throughout my life that she really really loves bald guys (her dad who died when she was a tween was bald so yeah my mother is legit insane but that’s its own whole thing the actual point here is that there’s a lid for every pot).
So yeah not being conventionally attractive is definitely a disadvantage in pretty much all areas of life, but there’s also a lot of other things you CAN change that can make a much bigger difference. Some people act like how big their nose is or whatever is the reason everything seems to be going wrong for them, while completely ignoring the parts of them that are changeable like how personable they are conversationally. That’s literally just a skill you can learn.
And it turns out a lot of attractiveness is also just how well you take care of yourself. Not having bathed or wearing dirty clothes, or regardless of expense wearing clothes that don’t fit your shape or suit the image that you’re trying to put out there obviously just doesn’t look as good as someone who took some time to take care of their body and put nice things on it that suit them (and I used to be a hella thrift shopper, it doesn’t even have to be pricey).
Tldr there’s a huge spectrum in between attractiveness factors that are innate versus ones that you can improve and it turns out a lot of people are happier and more mentally healthy when they focus on the things that they can change. It’s literally in the serenity prayer from alcoholics anonymous.
Every individual person has things that they are and aren’t attracted to, and it’s all different. Some people like big boobs, some want small boobs. Some people like blondes, others like brunets. Some want that ultra chad body, others are into the computer nerd. Some people really hate the idea of women being tall/taller than them, I want them to step on my balls.
Lul at the ball stepping. Some people area REALLY into the dad bod gamer Boi thing. My fiancee and ex of 12 years had both said that if I lose weight they would leave me, granted they said it tongue in cheek but they both like the dad bod thing.
It really is about how you carry yourself and take care of yourself. I’ve been described as smart, funny and decent looking. I’m fastidios about cleanliness and dress nicely and I don’t go around thinking about people being normies.
Some of those people just need to chill off 4 chan for a bit and need someone to hold their hand while they lead them back into society.
The man I’ve come closest to falling in love with was a short, chubby, hair-thinning, stuttering goofball. He kept himself clean, well-groomed, and wore nice clothes that fit him.
He was so passionate about what he loved (art, cats, and European history) that I couldn’t help but be absolutely smitten. His sincerity had me smiling from ear-to-ear every time I saw him get excited. Telling me about pieces of armor, paintings, music, and all kinds of other things, taking me to different places the way he spoke so happily about the things he cared about.
People can, more often than not, see through insincerity. Be real with what you like & who you are. The people who appreciate those things about you the real ones.
No…no…no… the only way is to catfish and lie because nobody will love you ever. The most you can hope for is to momentarily fool somebody into thinking your are something other than what you are for one hot second. That’s just Interwebz 101
When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie…
Yes I’m sorry my bad. Fake it until you’re massively insecure and hateful because you feel you can’t be yourself for the sake of attracting feeeeeemale attention. Then wallow in your misery when you realize that the problem might be a deep-rooted personal issue, but be sure to blame it on “normies” & wimmin instead of taking steps towards self-improvement and personal growth. ✨️❤️💵🤡🎉🎺❤️✨️
Now that’s a rock solid plan that you can take to the bank!
Looks like we found Marissa Tomei
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I want to hook you up with my brother, who sounds very much like your dude, but not married.
Drop me his email! Or whatever people use to communicate these days (with his consent, of course).
I’d love to know how you are going to start that conversation.
Dick picWith a friendly greeting, then an inquiry about what kind of hobbies and interests he has, probably.
I mean, will this lemmy thread be mentioned? If not, on what date will the origin story be revealed?
We’ll livestream our wedding on Lemmy & I’ll reveal it there.
What happened?
Turns out, he was already married.
Lovely man, but he had some issues to work out. Wished him the best and forced myself to move on.
Oof.
Hope you found someone else. You deserve to be happy
Thanks! Maybe one day. Much appreciated!
Someone else in this thread had “Shark” in their name. Common interest there. Kismet?
I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
You are worthy of love, my dear.
I’m not crying, you’re crying! :')
Thing is: you were a normie all along.
Someone much smarter than me once wrote that everyone thinks of their outgroup as “normies”: Catholics think of non-Catholics as “normies”, and “goyim” is just the Hebrew word for “normies”.
I just want to say: everyone in my outgroup sucks.
They don’t like it when you pat them on the head or rub their belly. Like; they’ll tell you their dog died, their fiancé left them, and they have to fight for custody of the kids - and they expect you to use words to comfort them?! Words. Absolute insanity, I tell you! In-sa-ni-ty!
Which is why I ironically use “muggles” with my tech-literate friends when talking about people with normal levels of tech literacy
The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact
I recognize this. What is it from?
I think it was in /b/‘s header if I’m not mistaken
A traditional part of /b/ rules alongside “zomg none!!1”
In fact, b has several rules
Ah, makes senss
It’s almost like being an actual human being and putting in minimum effort makes you interesting at a base level compared to just jerking off on your keyboard and dwelling in the past.
Minimum effort? Why are the standards so high?
Well, if they are lower, they’ll just end up jizz stained and crumpled up under the bed.
They’re just trying to get you to lower your guard so they can trick you and make fun of you; don’t fall for it Anon!
Every fucking time I think its going well…
Anon forgot to act like the average /b/tard. That tends to get normies to flee in terror
Yeah that’s always a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy
Wasn’t there one of these recently about getting a job?
Exact same outcome.
Reminds me of this scene: https://youtu.be/JlkBbb7SKyA
Turn it off!
