ChatGPT and all those LLMs are trained on many normal experiences and upbringings. If you don’t want the conversation saved you could also use it while not logged in. While they can make mistakes, you’ll learn these things sooner.
Just talk to people bro
I’m all for not trusting A.I., but please be realistic.
Realistically, there are other people on this planet. Some of them actually within reach of my mouth sounds. Even more in reach of these symbols I put on a screen.
Most people aren’t evil, don’t be paranoid
This isn’t about paranoia. I’m a carless shut-in of Almost Nowhere, USA and there’s a pile of snow on the ground.
But mostly it was a joke, because it should be funny that it is an unlikely request.
Talk to the actually loved normal people who view anyone developmentally behind them as subhuman scum?
Yeah, let me go ask an actual person about boundaries, hygiene, budgeting, consent, manners, and how to spot someone taking advantage of me. Right, I should ask an actual person how to smile as well, that’ll definitely work.
You’ve been spending too much time with AI. You’re starting to hallucinate like one. They only said “people”, not all that extra stuff you just assumed they meant.
I think a good step one would be to stop assuming “people” means “actually loved normal people who view anyone developmentally behind them as subhuman scum.” It could just mean people. You’re a person. You’re part of “people.”
There’s a lot of people who were where you are right now, and they struggled and pushed forward and grew into something not normal, but functional. They have a ton of advice they had to learn the hard way. And they are all too eager to give the compassion they were never given. They will teach you.
I’ve spent my whole life being less human than AI and less human than a street rat. “People” has only been used to describe me without saying my name within family and friend groups. “I want to play some games but I don’t want to play with People. What should I tell People to make People go away?” I’m scum trying to come off as a human to make enough money to retire early so I can Just Go Away without making myself a much bigger burden by failing a suicide attempt.
Most people are normal people whose parents raised them for success and actually spent time with them. Normal people who will feel “loss” when family dies. I still don’t get how it’s anything more than spilled milk. Can’t you just find someone else to replace them? Anyway, they all have the same experiences and views and can relate to each other. I have nothing. I am nothing.
The people who went through similar experiences will make fun of me for still smelling bad despite how hard I try to be clean, and assume it’s only because I play video games and don’t shower. AI would treat anyone with respect, including me.
You should go talk to a therapist. I don’t mean that to be mean, but you’re clearly going through some stuff … and that sucks but AI is a false prophet. It might make you feel better but it’s no substitute for actual therapy, actual advice, and an actual support system.
You seriously need to talk to people if you think that’s how people are. There are people with self-worth issues. There are people who don’t mourn their family. There are people who had body odor problems, and learned how to fix them, and will understand what you’re doing wrong and how to fix it with a sympathetic eye.
AI will respect you exactly as much as a rock will. It won’t. It won’t even know you’re there. There is no such thing as being less human than AI.
You are a part of people. You can pretend you’re not, but it’s only pretend. You’re better than that.
Boundaries
Boundaries are about respect, and it’s important to remember that there are two sets of boundaries, yours and theirs. They shouldn’t overlap. What are you comfortable with, what are they comfortable with. Don’t test boundaries on strangers, and don’t assume your boundaries are the same as others’. Likewise, communicate when someone else is encroaching on your boundaries. Protect them and advocate for yourself. Nobody else will.Hygiene
Shower at least every other day, and anytime you exercise. It’s really common to go nose-blind to your own odor. If you get a whiff of yourself and think maybe you stink, everyone else can smell you all the time. You should bathe. Wash and brush or comb your hair. If you have a beard, wash and comb that, too. Wash your face, behind your ears, your armpits, your genitals, and your feet. Deodorant goes on after the shower to prevent body odor. It does not go on instead of a shower to mask body odor. Brush your teeth at least morning and night, and preferably after every meal. Bathing and scrubbing should not be painful, so if you’re scratching or irritating the skin, see a doctor. You can wash too much/too vigorously/too frequently. ETA: Wash your clothes, too. Jeans might get two or three days of wear, but wear fresh, clean underwear and socks every day. Gym clothes should be washed immediately, and if your shoes begin to smell, some baking soda and a few hours in the warm sun will do wonders.Budgeting
Your take home pay is your budget. 50 / 30 / 20. 50% on needs, including housing, insurance, electricity, transportation, food and essentials. 30% on wants, like leisure activities, restaurants, alcohol and drugs, hobbies, etc. 20% should go to savings. If you have an unexpected expense, sacrifice wants first. Your savings should be protected when possible, but if you do have a large expense and need to dip into savings, prioritize replenishing that before you resume your normal hobbies.Consent
No means no, and unconscious or drunk people cannot consent. Rule of thumb, if someone is unable to stand or speak normally, they are too drunk to make good decisions. Yes is not a permanent free pass, either. This applies whether you are seeking consent or granting it. You can always say no, and you should always accept no.Manners
Manners are the formal recognition of boundaries. Being polite is how you demonstrate to someone else that you respect them and care about how they feel. Please makes it clear that you understand your request is asking them to provide some level of sacrifice, however small. Thank you demonstrates the gratitude you have for that sacrifice. Wait to eat until everyone has food, eat in a manner that does not disturb or distract other people eating, talk in a volume that does not disturb other people, all of the rules exist for a reason. Empathy, or thinking about how someone else feels in the moment, is the best guideline for good manners.How to spot someone taking advantage of you
Are they being overly accommodating? Are they letting you make every decision? Do they rapidly change moods or set seemingly arbitrary boundaries? An example would be a romantic partner who always treats you to fancy things, but insists on avoiding their hometown or introducing you to people they know. They might be entirely unavailable for long periods of time, and then love-bomb you when they are available. If you question their behavior, they may get overly defensive, angry, and try to gaslight you into thinking you’ve imagined the red flags.Trust is a two-way street.
It actually would.
You can google all of those things and learn about them without using ChatGPT
Actually yes you should. I’m gonna take it a bit further and suggest the actual normal person you need to talk to is a therapist. You read as someone who’s got some shit they need unpacked, and AI is not the tool to do that.
Somehow, the thought of someone raised by AI being the modern day version of “raised by wolves” is hilarious to me.
I rather trust random lemmings than I would trust an LLM. At least I can verify their claims independently, while LLMs hallucinate while citing sources.
Edit: here’s a cool YouTube channel to check out and learn from: Dad, how do I?
Sadly I, like many others just like me, was not raised as a child. Being born yesterday is a serious life threatening condition that puts everyone but us in danger, every single day.
So please, make the call now.“At age 6, I was born without a face”
Well, if you want to teach someone that they should eat rocks, then this is the advice to give, failing that, You Should Know not to provide advice you clearly and demonstrably know nothing about.
ChatGPT is autocorrect on steroids, nothing more, nothing less, consider anything coming from it Assumed Intelligence.
YSK If you’re depressed you can just start self medicating with opiates
But before don’t forget to cook your steak with gas, and put some glue on your pizza. Google says it’s great.
Source: i made it up
All of those things listed are real. You didn’t make nothin’ up!
Do you have any examples?
I started one instance solely to vent in and learned things I most likely wouldn’t have learned at all. Like for example it turns out I probably have nerve damage and I’m not just faking pain so much that I tricked myself in believing it because I don’t like work.
Ah, fair enough. I think it’d be best to follow up on this and if possible have a doctor look at this. I mean there are tests and examinations that need to be done for a proper diagnosis. And since ChatGPT can’t do any of this (and sometimes likes to swindle and make stuff up, but generally it can’t do any tests since it has no physical form or body) you can’t be sure until you consulted a professional. And if you have nerve damage, there might be treatment available.
