I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.

  • @Whitebrow
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    81 hour ago

    It’s January 1st, 1970 no matter who (or what) asks

  • @Coreidan
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    122 minutes ago

    I hate birthdays so I am OK with everyone forgetting

  • @BassTurd
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    123 minutes ago

    Those that know, know. I don’t like the extra attention on an arbitrary day. I also don’t message people happy birthday. Only if I see you in person or you’re my wife and I’m away.

  • HubertManne
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    61 hour ago

    I don’t particularly like celebrating birthdays or holidays so I definitely do not expect anyone to remember. I also avoid telling my birthday whenever I can evading as I can. That being said I throw peoples birthday into my cal as I discover them so I can be congnizant of them since most people do celebrate that stuff. If you want to impress me though get me a really relevant gift out of the blue that you got for free, made, or was just a steal of a deal. or a handmedown. don’t be like seinfeld though and lie to me on how cheap you got the thing as the experience should be authentic.

  • @sunbrrnslapper
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    255 minutes ago

    I share my birthday with my mom and son, which makes it easy for everyone to remember.

  • NONE
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    72 hours ago

    I try to be fair, and since I don’t remember others people’s birthdays, I don’t mine if anyone (other than my family) remembers mine.

  • @[email protected]
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    138 minutes ago

    If they’re close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It’s a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.

  • Björn Tantau
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    193 hours ago

    In Germany it’s customary for those having the birthday to bring cake to work. That way coworkers know.

    And friends should find out when you invite them to a birthday party. Doesn’t have to be a big party when you’re an adult. You just invite them, eat something together, have some fun. Depends on the friend group.

  • @[email protected]
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    153 hours ago

    Nobody knows my birthday.

    For adults unless your throwing a party, it’s not something that comes up.

  • @Eczpurt
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    My birthday I keep to myself and whoever remembers remembers haha.

    I used to forget others birthdays but the people who matter most to me I’ve made the effort to remember as best I can. Last year I started putting birthdays into my calendar as a recurring event so I don’t miss them. I just set a reminder a week or two prior if I want time to get a gift!

  • @RandomUser
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    134 hours ago

    I barely remember my birthday.

    • @[email protected]
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      31 hour ago

      I think the last time I celebrated any holiday was buying some champagne when Kissinger died.

  • @[email protected]
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    53 hours ago

    I do my best to not telling anyone so only a few people know. I’m allergic to pointless social interactions and that is one of them for me. At my job nobody knows.

  • sylver_dragon
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    33 hours ago

    My friends know, and we usually get together and play games on a day designated as my birthday. It’s usually on the weekend before or after the actual day. As for remembering, if you know someone well enough to be present at their birthday, just write it down. You all have phones, don’t you? Honestly though, the older I get, the less it has mattered. It’s really just an excuse for us to get together. My wife gets me something sweet (usually a cinnamon roll), everyone sings “happy birthday” and we go back to whatever game is on the table. It’s nice to be thought of, but mostly I just want to be with friends and family.