Study reveals some teens receive 5,000 notifications daily, most spend almost two hours on TikTok | Kids officially don’t like Facebook::undefined

  • Zerlyna
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    1061 year ago

    5,000 daily is 3.47 per minute for 24/7. Insane?

    • @[email protected]
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      probably from all those people
      who can’t form a single sentence
      without hitting “send”
      every two words

        • @[email protected]
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          31 year ago

          Mhm, I’ll absolutely do this sometimes, as a stylistic choice. I usually type and text with perfect spelling and punctuation (at least as close to perfect as my brain can get!)

          Sometimes, typing in a punctuation-free or texting in a rapid manner like that can make a message come across the way it sounds in my mind.

      • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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        181 year ago

        I kinda need to do this with my dad, otherwise he doesn’t notice texts. For example he texts me “Buy that spread for €0.79”. “Hazelnut or cocoa?” which if I don’t follow with ~5 question marks, he won’t even notice.

      • @[email protected]
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        151 year ago

        I recently started dating again and noticed a lot of people do this now it’s very annoying.

        • @[email protected]
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          161 year ago

          I’ve got one person doing that in my work group chat. I’ve got Buzzkill installed for the sole purpose of muting the chat for five minutes whenever they send a message in order to avoid my watch constantly vibrating for two minutes.

          • @[email protected]
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            71 year ago

            TIL about Buzzlill. Holy shit. I could probably do the same thing with Tasker but I’ll happily pay $4 so I don’t have to.

            • @[email protected]
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              it can also be plugged into Tasker :) you can set conditions to run Tasker profiles, for example. just saying.

            • @[email protected]
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              11 year ago

              Buzzkill is the first thing I installed on my OnePlus 11. I don’t remember exactly, but I couldn’t get some notifications to come through as vibrate only, and the ones that did vibrated for too long. Buzzkill let’s me not only create custom vibrate notifications but also set the strength and duration. Game changer for sure

      • newIdentity
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        -71 year ago

        What’s the disadvantage? I really only see advantages.

        So here’s an example:

        you: hey

        you: are you free right now?

        other: nah. Sorry

        other: but I shold have time around 17:00.

        you: Ok. Call me when you’re done. It’s kinda important

        other: Ok


        The first message introduces a conversation followed by a follow up. As soon as you send the first message it’s easier to send the second one too since you already introduced the conversation.

        The other person then answers with a short answer where they don’t really have to think about what they write and how they write it. You instantly get an answer.

        • @[email protected]
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          What’s the disadvantage?

          https://nohello.net/en/

          A: hey (my watch vibrates once)
          A: are you free right now? (my watch vibrates again)
          B: nah. Sorry (their phone plays the sound once)
          B: but I shold have time around 17:00. (their phone plays the sound again)

          as opposed to:

          A: hey, are you free right now? (one vibration)
          B: nah, sorry, but I should have time around 17:00 (one sound played)

          • @flames5123
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            91 year ago

            The amount of times I’ve had to send this to other developers is infuriating. I’ll wait 5 mins for them to send the part after “hey.” I’m not replying back without an inquiry. I’ve got work to do.

              • @[email protected]
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                31 year ago

                Yeah same here, if they don’t say anything after “hey”, then I’m not going to put in additional effort to get more work dumped on me

          • newIdentity
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            -61 year ago

            I don’t really see a problem with that. Also it shouldn’t vibrate if you’re already in the chat. So that really isn’t a problem since you usually see that the other person is typing and usually wait for them to send the message as long as they aren’t taking too long.

            • @[email protected]
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              I don’t really see a problem with that.

              and I do, because it doubles the amount of notifications I receive. if 5 people ask me something that way, I end up with 10 notifications, half of them being a pointless “hey”. it’s just plain inconsiderate.

              Also it shouldn’t vibrate if you’re already in the chat

              I don’t always immediately rush to check my phone when I get notified, not to mention that when the alerts are fired in a rapid sequence like that you often just don’t have time to open the conversation before the next alert arrives.

              • newIdentity
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                -41 year ago

                Then you’re slow. I almost always have the phone in my pocket

        • @[email protected]
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          41 year ago

          My friends in a group chat sometimes have something to ask me so they be like: ‘Hey, Critical_Insight?’ - to which I two hours later reply: ‘Yeah?’ and then maybe an hour later I get the actual question and an hour from that I reply to it. If they instead would’ve just asked the question in the first message, I then would have answered to in in my first reply, and then be done with it. Maybe it’s just me, but I see that as waste of everyones time.

    • @[email protected]
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      431 year ago

      I know a lot of people who never change their Discord notifications. They get notifications for every message in every channel in every server. It’s insane.

      Obviously they do not actually interact with these notifications. They tune them out, and I guess eventually they will swipe them away. Personally it always stresses me out a little when I see their phones with a hundred notifications. I’ve never been a proponent of “inbox zero” for email, but “notification bar zero” has been my standard way of using smartphones for as long as smartphones have existed. If I got 3 notifications per minute on my phone, I would probably smash it with a hammer and go find a nice cave to retire to.

        • @[email protected]
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          71 year ago

          Yeah, I have a few as well. A lot of those can be hidden without being killed if you long-press them and click the gear. Others I actually like to have so I can see the status, e.g. I want to know if my VPN disconnects.

          • JackGreenEarth
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            31 year ago

            The key will disappear from the status bar if it disconnects, you don’t need the app icon too.

            • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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              21 year ago

              It doesn’t have to. For example ProtonVPN stays active even if it disconnects. There’s still the VPN symbol, but the notification will tell you it’s trying to reconnect.

      • @[email protected]
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        41 year ago

        I have been doing inbox zero for a few months now and it has been great. Swipe right to delete, left to archive. Anything in my inbox actually needs my attention.

        Also don’t give out my real email and unsubscribe from anything I don’t need. It’s just a few emails per day now.

      • newIdentity
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        11 year ago

        I just glance at it and instantly swipe away what I don’t need.

    • KSP Atlas
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      121 year ago

      This number is skewed by Notifications John, who receives millions of notifications a day and should not be counted

    • @MarigoldPuppyFlavors
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      51 year ago

      I feel like I’d install a bunch of shit before getting anywhere close to a tenth of that. I’d hate my phone. However, I’m far from being a teenager and their ways and methods have become somewhat mysterious.

    • @[email protected]
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      51 year ago

      I can see my phone getting that if I let every app just push whatever they want. I purposefully and carefully go through and ensure I’m only getting notifications for what I need them for.

      I average 250 a day. With 3/4 of those being messaging apps.

    • @PixxlMan
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      31 year ago

      Probably also random games and apps spamming you to play them

    • Ghostalmedia
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      21 year ago

      60% of the group get less than 300 80% get less than 500

      5000 is probably a very very small percent, and probably kids that have a shit load of followers.

    • @Ado
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      21 year ago

      Holy shit man. That sounds so stressful

    • @[email protected]
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      11 year ago

      I get a lot, although not that many, but I have sound turned off for most and clear them like once a week or so.

  • @[email protected]
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    641 year ago

    That’s about 4990 more than I do.

    I’ve disabled almost all of them. Even the ones I do get only appear as an icon on my notification bar. I don’t even have lockscreen notifications anymore. I find it too invasive, and feel like the device is demanding my attention.

    • @TurboDiesel
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      181 year ago

      IMO all notifications should be opt-in. I basically have everything but my phone, text messages, and Outlook email off. The constant buzzing throughout the day was driving me insane.

      • 👍Maximum Derek👍
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        I have rule where if I install an app it sends me a notification that isn’t necessary for the app’s functionality it gets deleted forever. I’d have to make an exception for work apps but I don’t think its been an issue.

        I have very few apps not from fdroid.

      • @[email protected]
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        81 year ago

        all notifications should be opt-in.

        aren’t they already? for the past few versions of Android, every newly installed app needs to ask you for permission to send notifications, and I’m fairly sure iOS has had it for even longer.

        • @TurboDiesel
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          21 year ago

          I’d love to, but I need to be responsive for work.

          • @[email protected]
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            31 year ago

            Then filter only those messages that you need to respond to. Not everything is urgent. Check the non-urgent things manually every 15 minutes and you will still be fine.

    • @[email protected]
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      81 year ago

      Yeah, I’m with you. I declared war on notifications during covid and they suddenly became super annoying whilst working from home

  • @[email protected]
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    531 year ago

    5000 notifications per day? That’s over 3 notifications per minute.

    Are they opting in to get a notification every time someone in a thousand+ member discord server posts anything at all?

    • @[email protected]
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      71 year ago

      I think it might be notifications for group chats they’re in. Maybe spread over multiple apps? Anecdotally I remember having the same friend group on multiple apps, with a couple of members missing/added in each. So many times the same topic create double or triple notifications. But 5000 is insane…

  • @[email protected]
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    531 year ago

    5000 per day?! That’s insane. I feel like I get bombarded with notifications, so I checked how many I got today. Exactly 69.

  • HiramFromTheChi
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    531 year ago

    I can’t emphasize how important it is for you to control your phone, especially notifications. Every notification is literally a mind hijacking attempt. Regardless of the type of notification, it’s something that disrupts our thinking and our flow.

    Some of them are necessary—but most aren’t.

    All the native apps will of course try to get as much permission from you as possible, including notifications. Don’t allow this permission freely.

    Get really strict about which apps need to send you notifications, and when. Take it from a dude who used to give free reign to all apps for notifications.

    Once I started thinking in a more digitally minimalistic way, it made a huge difference. Running GrapheneOS actually helped with this a lot. But you don’t need GOS to do this and feel the difference.

    I got some notifications turned on, but most of em are silent. So they still get delivered, but they’re not time-sensitive. They’ll be there when I check my phone next. I don’t need em interrupting whatever I was doing or thinking.

    TL;DR: Be strict about which notifications you allow, and when. It’ll do wonders for your thinking, productivity, and mental health.

    • @[email protected]
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      91 year ago

      I’ve developed some PTSD like symptoms for when my phone goes off.

      Notification, call, whatever. Immediate panic and I have to remember to breathe.

      Even trimming every notification I can, it still happens several times throughout the day, and my phone only has audible notifications when I’m at home, most from my wife.

      I left that job over a year ago and still I can’t shake it.

      • @Kilamaos
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        51 year ago

        Sorry for you, but how the fuck did you get like that ? If you aren’t massively exaggerating, that sounds super un healthy and a massive mental issue. What can possibly make it become like that?

        • @[email protected]
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          61 year ago

          Sole IT person for a corporation and was on call 24/7/365.

          It was just supposed to be a help desk position.

          It was for an MSP that… Well, the whole thing was a nightmare, but I had lost my IT hospitality job due to covid and the place shuttering. I was desperate.

        • @Shapillon
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          41 year ago

          For me a simple combination of autism, massive social anxiety, and actual PTSD ^^’

        • @[email protected]
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          21 year ago

          It’s a symptom rather than a problem.

          Some jobs are incredibly stressful - often the result of being given responsibility for things which are either out of your control or you don’t have resources appropriate to address. Sadly, this intense pressure inspires high levels of performance at the cost of the individual’s sanity.

          If your phone is your “inbox” or the way you’re notified of incidents then it’s natural that over time a notification will signal your endochrine system to go into fight or flight mode.

          When a lizard sees a moving shadow and darts for the bushes - that doesn’t mean it’s scared of shadows it just doesn’t want to get eaten by a swooping raptor.

      • @Deftdrummer
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        11 year ago

        This is a mental disorder that you need looked into.

    • @Whichwitch
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      31 year ago

      Agreed. The only notifications I have on are for my email and texts. The first thing I do when I download a new app is turn off notifications.

    • @[email protected]
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      21 year ago

      Agreed. Use the screen time app on your phone, go overboard with it. I allow 30 min for Tiktok, 10 for IG, 45 for web browsing in general, 20 for Telegram, and even these I feel are too much, but I get so bored at work. It’s really easy just to get into a flow state and not realize you sat there for an hour straight staring at your phone. Trying to find more small paperbacks to keep in my pocket to replace this.

      Also the “Clockify” app on PC can track how much time you are using it. You can set it to remind you certain amounts of time like Pomodoro when using which is great and makes you conscious of how much time you’re using.

      • HiramFromTheChi
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        11 year ago

        Trying to find more small paperbacks to keep in my pocket to replace this.

        The more digital dopamine you can replace, the better.

        Also the “Clockify” app on PC can track how much time you are using it.

        An open source, cross-platform, and local-first (so data never leaves your device) platform is ActivityWatch. :)

    • @[email protected]
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      11 year ago

      I just wanted an easier way to filter what is notified. I don’t care if X or Y promoted profile posted, but I want to know if a friend did.

      • @Weirdfish
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        That unfortunately is going to be app dependent as far as I know. Your phone can set if a given app will alert you, but for example facebook would have to filter which friend’s notifications get sent.

        An app that let you manage notifications by user across multiple platforms would be amazing.

        “I don’t want to hear from Jay today” would be an awesome checkbox.

        • @[email protected]
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          11 year ago

          Yeah, I believe the newer android versions allow for that but requires app developers to implement notification sorting. Unfortunately it really isn’t in their interest to do so.

    • @[email protected]
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      -61 year ago

      I am still kind of in a state of dissonance after learning that some people don’t disconnect their phones from internet when it’s not directly used. That just feels wrong on some level. Cursed, I’d say.

      • @[email protected]
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        11 year ago

        I don’t disconnect my phone from internet because my usage is too spontaneous to always be turning it on or off. I do have my app permissions locked down though, GPS always off unless I’m using it, and nothing is allowed to run in the background except my VPN. I totally disconnect my pc from the network cable when I’m not actively downloading something though.

    • @cm0002
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      11 year ago

      I was in middle school when it was getting really popular, now it’s like that one guy from High School you try to forget about…

  • @Matriks404
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    WTF? Why do people like getting notifications at all? Every time I get one on my phone that is not important I am just full of anger because it is distracting me from getting stuff done.

    • @Fades
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      111 year ago

      For me, notifications trigger a small hit of anxiety

    • stevedidWHAT
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      71 year ago

      Literal doses of happy chemicals get released because attention. You should watch the Social Dilema if you haven’t already.

      You can literally get people hooked on this and retrain on what is good happy time and what is not good happy time. Shit is scary.

    • Flying Squid
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      31 year ago

      I get notifications for precisely two things: Texts and emails. And only emails because of work. Otherwise it would only be texts. I turn off all other notifications the second I install the app because I don’t need that shit.

  • @AgentGrimstone
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    351 year ago

    5000? I get annoyed just from one from an app I forgot I had installed.

      • @ilinamorato
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        91 year ago

        My mom’s phone looks like a notification factory exploded in her status bar. I bet she gets a dozen notifications a minute. She has all of her Facebook notifications on, set to push; she has weather notifications from multiple weather apps; she has email notifications, text message notifications, advertising notifications from random stores… it’s hellish. Thankfully all of her notifications are set to silent.

        Anyway, having seen my mom’s phone, I can well imagine 5,000 a day in someone who doesn’t know or doesn’t care about notification hygiene.

          • @ilinamorato
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            11 year ago

            As far as I can tell she ignores all but the top two or three at any given time, and just checks individual apps (messaging, email) as desired. So functionally, it’s like she has no notifications.

      • @[email protected]
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        31 year ago

        It was also discovered that more than half of the participants received more than 200 notifications in one day, with some getting an incredible 5,000 notifications in 24 hours.

        • @[email protected]
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          11 year ago

          5000 is 3-4 notifications a minute 24/7. I’m not seeing how a phone could be usable at that point.

  • AlmightySnoo 🐢🇮🇱🇺🇦
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    I don’t have kids yet but things like these make me wonder how a parent would deal with the kids having a smartphone. If you don’t get them one they’re going to feel left out as you can be sure as hell that most other kids have one. I’m no psychologist but to me if you buy your kid a smartphone then you basically risk having him/her destroy his/her brain cells and attention span with Tiktok and Snapchat. When I was a kid I did have a cellphone, and I had a PC too, but our house back then didn’t have internet and receiving thousands of notifications in a single day was definitely unheard of back then.

    • @[email protected]
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      121 year ago

      That’s a very valid concern. Personally, I think parents should keep their kids away from phones much longer. While I’ve only got a kid on the way, I’m hoping to keep them off of smartphones until high school.

      • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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        61 year ago

        That sounds too long to me. Since later in elementary school (3rd grade), smartphone (and tablet I had at the time) have been really useful tools for me. Sure, I definitely wasted plenty of time on Minecraft videos, but it’s not any worse than TV. It helped me learn a lot of what I know now. Without that, I’d have problems getting into any high school. For example, it helped me fly through chemistry and physics like a breeze. Also I learned English, which has unlocked me access to even more info. I wouldn’t have been able to pass 7th grade without studying for history, again on my phone.

        But of course, there was less crap than now. I am happy I got to grow up with YouTube channels like ExplainingComputers, ElectroBOOM, LGR, Scott Manley, Techmoan, The 8-bit guy, Tom Scott, Veritasium, Ted-Ed, and others I don’t remember.

        But even before I had smartphone, I could already watch youtube on my Sony Ericsson W200i. That was something. It ran at like 5fps in SD quality, but it worked. And 50MB was basically infinite data.

        • @Cort
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          I watch most of those channels so here are a few unsolicited recommendations:

          Technology connections

          Cathode Ray dude

          And maybe Aging wheels

        • @[email protected]
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          41 year ago

          I definitely think tech should be a part of their life, but a personal smartphone is something I personally feel can wait.

          • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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            Can you explain why?
            At this point, smartphones can most of the time replace desktop/laptop computers. At least Android. I am not sure how it looks on the side of iOS. Though, of course, using e.g. Collabora Office on smartphone isn’t nearly as convenient as LibreOffice on laptop, but it can be done. And with Termux, it feels anything is possible.

            If you mean that they’ll have it 24/7 which feels unhealthy, they can just leave it at home. I did that until high school (my own decision) because I didn’t want to break my phone. In fact, I still do that when I go walk my dog. I just bought the cheapest dumb phone that I don’t have to worry about for cases of emergency. It was less than 10 bucks. Of course I tend to forget it, so it doesn’t really work.

            • @[email protected]
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              I want my kids to have the tools they need to succeed, and I realize a smartphone has nearly become essential at a certain age, but they also control the lives of many people. Technology is an amazing tools, but it has been designed to be highly addictive. Kids have enough problems to deal with, and I don’t want to make things harder for them.

              —- edit —- I suppose what I’m really trying to say is that I want my children to first learn healthy habits.

        • @[email protected]
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          21 year ago

          I’m torn because your cell phone use sounds pretty healthy but I worry others get a more negative experience overall especially with social media.

          Also the idea of anyone prior to high-school having cell phones feels odd to me, when I was in school kids worked summer jobs to buy a phone so senior year of high school was a popular year to get into the cell phone game. I didn’t get one myself until I completed college and thought I’d need it for work (I didn’t). Hardly use it but it is expected to have once you’re in your mid 20s making appointments and whatnot. But do people really expect you to have one in elementary school?

    • Dawn
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      1. disable notifications for most apps. I’m not sure if you can do it for iPhone, but any android phone, you can stop any app from sending any type of notification, even separating based on category. Eg. Turning off all youtube notifications except for security ones.

      2. Have your kid read books, this will do wonders in helping them get ahead near the start of their school life, as well as doing wonders on their creativity and imagination.

      3. Limit their screen time, and force them to find something else to do with their time. My mum did this to me, I hated it growing up, but I’m incredibly grateful now. It forced me to find ways to have fun without technology.

      4. Drop these restrictions down when they are a teenager. Teenagers want freedom. Hopefully, through making your kid read books while growing up, they will choose to read books in their teenage years. I know I did, and both my sisters did.

      Although this is the thoughts from someone who is 20, going off their own recent experience and from watching their siblings, I would definitely love to hear thoughts from others about this, tho.

    • @givesomefucks
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      I’m no psychologist but to me if you buy your kid a smartphone then you basically risk having him/her destroy his/her brain cells and attention span with Tiktok and Snapchat.

      Things this has been said about before: internet, computers, video games, cable TV, broadcast TV, radio, comics, pulp novels, newspapers, the printing press, widespread ability to read/write…

      Hell, the first kid to utter a word probably got growled at.

      Just because we can’t keep up as we get older, doesn’t mean the kids are doomed. They live at a faster pace than us, it’s always been like this. It’s just technology didn’t change as fast.

    • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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      11 year ago

      My classmates get similar amount of notifications. It doesn’t seem to be a problem, they just ignore all of them. There’s no way you’re going through each of those.

    • @macrocephalic
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      11 year ago

      I hope to teach my kids the beauty of Do Not Disturb. I get a lot of notifications but they don’t notify me.

  • @Smacks
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    271 year ago

    I’d go insane if I got 5k notifications in a day

  • @[email protected]
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    261 year ago

    I’m almost 40 and I officially don’t like Facebook. Why anyone still uses it is beyond me, it’s just don’t a good experience anymore.

    Tbf though, I’ve backed off most social platforms.

  • @[email protected]
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    261 year ago

    5k notifications are 99th percentile. Probably the media is around 100-200 and average should be lower.

    • @[email protected]
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      131 year ago

      My stats say my phone gets ~140/day. I definitely ignore 99% of them, just like my 10k+ unread emails.

      • @meliaesc
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        191 year ago

        I’m genuinely curious why you don’t disable notifications you don’t need, and unsubscribe from emails you dont want?

        • @[email protected]
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          21 year ago

          Notifications get rolled up all the time, if I’ve received a lot of messages in Signal or Teams, I just have one notification in the dropdown for each group, even though I may have “received” 50 notifications from that group.

          On emails, reply-chains are prevalent, so I can read the latest one and usually not have to open 20 emails.

          I have some services set to email me events, transactions, and notifications, which I don’t need today. However, sometimes these sites go offline, discontinue a product, remove the ability for you to view prior information or contributions, archive old data, change their ToS to something you can’t stand, any number of things that might mean that data is now unreachable to you. So for those emails I just sort them off and they’re archived.

  • edric
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    1 year ago

    Meanwhile I’m here with 2 notifications a day that are @everyone tags or group notifications.

  • @KeefChief13
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    231 year ago

    Kids have not liked facebook in ages

    • @ilinamorato
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      They’ve reported it for ages, but it’s only been in the last few years that they’ve actually been not signing up.

  • @hperrin
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    221 year ago

    I think you can just say “everyone officially dislikes Facebook.”