• @ComicalMayhem
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    7610 months ago

    Who out here getting three girlfriend 😭

    • z500
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      5310 months ago

      Who the fuck has time for three girlfriends?

      • @[email protected]
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        5510 months ago

        Nobody, which is why poly is exclusively for people with a scheduling kink.

        But yeah, I’ve never met a poly person who would bring three of their partners to a single event and introduce them all as their girlfriends. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever met a poly who calls their partners “girlfriend”.

        • @[email protected]
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          1210 months ago

          I’ve allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier. I don’t love it, it doesn’t sound like a longterm adult relationship, but I recognize it’s easier to say “my wife and my girlfriend”.

          and both of us go to family Christmas, though not everyone needs to know relationship status.

          … you’re absolutely right about the scheduling thing though.

          • @[email protected]
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            110 months ago

            I’ve allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier.

            That’s pretty understandable and reasonable, but something tells me bringing another girlfriend to the same party would probably make the whole point a little moot.

            Something about the post reads as “I’m only poly to upset my parents”, and that’s not typically what I see when interacting with the community. All the successful poly relationships I’ve seen have taken a ton of work and communication for it to function, and tend to be more mature than let’s go upset my partners parents.

        • @[email protected]
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          1110 months ago

          I was in a poly relationship. I called my girlfriend “girlfriend” and she called me her “boyfriend,” and she also called her other boyfriend “boyfriend” and he called her “girlfriend.”

          It was a great, genuinely healthy relationship, and Kyle was an excellent dude who always treated our girlfriend excellently

          • @irreticent
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            610 months ago

            It depends… when are you available?

      • @[email protected]
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        210 months ago

        Late 20s it’s kind of doable, at least for awhile. But usually they don’t know each other, lol.

      • @[email protected]
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        510 months ago

        Well, the nice thing about poly is that… they do! As you can still date the same people they’re dating!

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]
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    I had three girlfriends for a while in my late twenties in that I was the guy they hooked up with when their primaries were out and they were feeling lonely / jealous. Not a great gig, as I was getting laid way less than I would have liked.

    Curiously, my flat-mate’s boyfriend, who was getting plenty, was envious of my poly adventures, maybe imaging more of a harem lifestyle than I actually had.

    PS: Only in my late forties did I ever become comfortable letting my parents get news about my love life, by which time it had stabilized.

  • Dr. Coomer
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    1310 months ago

    The real question is how do you pull 3 girls at the same time?

    • kase
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      1810 months ago

      The use of “three of my girlfriends,” instead of something like “my three girlfriends,” makes me wonder if she’s got more

  • @saltesc
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    710 months ago

    Out of frame, dad…