• @[email protected]
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    1041 day ago

    Now try finding someone you find attractive and who also finds you attractive in return (it’s impossible).

    • Lemminary
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      29 hours ago

      That’s the boat I’m in, except that I’m also gay and the popular trend is poligamy. :) Fml

    • @[email protected]
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      I did a calculation once about my chances of finding a compatible long-term partner, inspired by the Drake Equation and using many many assumptions. The numbers are not good: ~22 out of 8 billion.

      • @Tehdastehdas
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        45 hours ago

        Wouldn’t be a problem if someone took dating as seriously as Skyscanner takes flight tickets.

      • @Atlas_
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        1113 hours ago

        That seems absurdly low. Are you sure that all of your criteria are non-negotiable? And entirely uncorrelated?

        • @[email protected]
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          912 hours ago

          Look I wasn’t completely serious about it, there’s no way to actually calculate something like that.
          For example what’s the fraction of people that find me attractive. It could range from 0.05 to 0.5. I have no way of knowing.

          • @surewhynotlem
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            27 hours ago

            You could work backwards from successful marriage counts.

      • @Zron
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        2820 hours ago

        As a married man, I gotta say you’re probably selling yourself short or have unrealistic expectations of a partner.

        Remember that whoever you’re going to date is a person, not a robot. People are not quantifiable. One day they may be a dick, the next they may be pleasant. Some people are willing to compromise and others aren’t. Man, woman, or other, it doesn’t matter. If you’re not willing to compromise something, you’re never going to find someone.

          • @Zron
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            112 minutes ago

            I’d rather be assumed attractive than to remove all doubt.

            Go hangout at a Starbucks in a target if you want to meet women, they’re certainly not going to wander into your bedroom.

      • @WarTowel
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        3124 hours ago

        So you’re saying there’s a chance

        • @[email protected]
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          1114 hours ago

          I like reminding my single friends that 73% of Americans are considered overweight. 41% are obese.

          A shocking amount of my male friends are overweight or obese and refuse to date overweight women.

          • @[email protected]
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            15 hours ago

            We could all lose a few pounds but sharing a meal is a huge thing, take that thicc person out and enjoy meal with another human being you animals. You might even find you have some commonality and you’ll feel slightly less isolated when the meal is done.

      • @recklessengagement
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        621 hours ago

        I’m curious about the math you did to come to that final number

      • @edgemaster72
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        621 hours ago

        I only need to make 1 assumption to solve that equation for me

        0% of people would find me attractive

        QE fucking D