• AItoothbrush
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    169 hours ago

    Idk i find like 80% of women i know attractive, its just that i have such confidence problems i dont ask anybody out.

  • @[email protected]
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    813 hours ago

    That’s been something hard about transitioning, being aware of how fewer and fewer people find me attractive the further I go. Ah well, it’s not like I was going to find a partner anyways, looks really never came into play in the first place.

  • Juice
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    3617 hours ago

    I feel like this meme was made by a gen z kid that grew up with filtered pictures being normal

    • Da Bald Eagul
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      15 hours ago

      I’m gen z but my problem is mostly that I tend to be attracted to my friends more… Which kinda limits the pool. Whoops.

        • Da Bald Eagul
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          11 hour ago

          True, so far it hasn’t really worked out though. And it also makes it much harder to get over someone. In the end I’ll probably find someone but with a lot of hurt along the way before I do, I imagine.

  • @HeyJoe
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    2218 hours ago

    Over the years of talking with my wife about who we find attractive, she has realized I find almost all women attractive in some ways and normally the ones that are supposed to be attractive i find less attractive. She hated this realization because she applied it to herself, and it made her feel bad… I just find the good in most people, that’s all!

    • @Pacattack57
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      1514 hours ago

      There’s a coworker of mine that when the topic arises and he gets asked what is his preference (in terms of the types of women he likes) his response is “women” 😂

  • @[email protected]
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    1041 day ago

    Now try finding someone you find attractive and who also finds you attractive in return (it’s impossible).

    • Lemminary
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      29 hours ago

      That’s the boat I’m in, except that I’m also gay and the popular trend is poligamy. :) Fml

    • @[email protected]
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      1 day ago

      I did a calculation once about my chances of finding a compatible long-term partner, inspired by the Drake Equation and using many many assumptions. The numbers are not good: ~22 out of 8 billion.

      • @Tehdastehdas
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        45 hours ago

        Wouldn’t be a problem if someone took dating as seriously as Skyscanner takes flight tickets.

      • @Atlas_
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        1114 hours ago

        That seems absurdly low. Are you sure that all of your criteria are non-negotiable? And entirely uncorrelated?

        • @[email protected]
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          912 hours ago

          Look I wasn’t completely serious about it, there’s no way to actually calculate something like that.
          For example what’s the fraction of people that find me attractive. It could range from 0.05 to 0.5. I have no way of knowing.

          • @surewhynotlem
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            27 hours ago

            You could work backwards from successful marriage counts.

      • @Zron
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        2820 hours ago

        As a married man, I gotta say you’re probably selling yourself short or have unrealistic expectations of a partner.

        Remember that whoever you’re going to date is a person, not a robot. People are not quantifiable. One day they may be a dick, the next they may be pleasant. Some people are willing to compromise and others aren’t. Man, woman, or other, it doesn’t matter. If you’re not willing to compromise something, you’re never going to find someone.

          • @Zron
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            118 minutes ago

            I’d rather be assumed attractive than to remove all doubt.

            Go hangout at a Starbucks in a target if you want to meet women, they’re certainly not going to wander into your bedroom.

      • @WarTowel
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        3124 hours ago

        So you’re saying there’s a chance

        • @[email protected]
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          1114 hours ago

          I like reminding my single friends that 73% of Americans are considered overweight. 41% are obese.

          A shocking amount of my male friends are overweight or obese and refuse to date overweight women.

          • @[email protected]
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            15 hours ago

            We could all lose a few pounds but sharing a meal is a huge thing, take that thicc person out and enjoy meal with another human being you animals. You might even find you have some commonality and you’ll feel slightly less isolated when the meal is done.

      • @recklessengagement
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        621 hours ago

        I’m curious about the math you did to come to that final number

      • @edgemaster72
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        621 hours ago

        I only need to make 1 assumption to solve that equation for me

        0% of people would find me attractive

        QE fucking D

    • @[email protected]
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      451 day ago

      From what I understand if you just stay in front of the computer that they will magically manifest inside your home.

      • @Deestan
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        121 day ago

        I’ve heard that it also goes faster if you complain about women being evil and stupid on the computer.

        • ivanafterall ☑️
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          1123 hours ago

          When you find a (rare!) female online, you must protect her at all costs. She will be surrounded by ne’er-do-wells and men of ill-intent. You are her knight. She is your lady. You must never doubt yourself in this. Nature will take its course.

          That’s when you start negging her.

      • Krafting
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        321 day ago

        Be me and the dating pool is 200% smaller.

        • @[email protected]
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          171 day ago

          I swear this has the opposite effect. In more than one instance, I’ve told someone I’m ace and it’s made them more persistent, like they’re thinking ‘Oh, I can fix that.’ No, I assure you, you can’t. Please stop. :(

          • LostXOR
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            1023 hours ago

            Pull the reverse card on them and treat their attraction like it’s something that needs fixing: “Oh, you’re attracted to me? I’m so sorry to hear that! Have you tried therapy?”

      • @[email protected]
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        41 day ago

        I miss acedatespace. There’s acespace.love, but that’s more like people shouting into the void than an actual dating site.

  • @[email protected]
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    922 hours ago

    If you like each other and you share most values, there is your partner. If your partner is good looking as well; great for you guys!

  • N3Cr0
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    The upper one depicts the guys around me. I can go through the lower one, but the result is usually this.