• @madcaesar
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    Nothing wrong at approaching somone you like, introducing yourself and asking them out.

    One tip… don’t use the words sexual harassment in the first sentance when meeting somone…

    • @dexa_scantron
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      It’s not awesome to ask someone out when they’re working, but it’s not harassment unless it’s repeated.

    • @wellee
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      178 months ago

      Right, and while at work hahaha. Could you go up to anyone who looks less receptive? What is this comic, just ragebait?

      • @[email protected]
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        Simply asking someone for their number is not harassment.

        Repeatedly asking for someone’s number after being told no is.

        There isn’t any nuance to this situation.

          • @[email protected]
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            It’s okay to talk to women if you’re a male model but stay the fuck away if you aren’t. Got it.

          • @dfc09
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            “when they think you’re gross”

            How can I know if someone thinks I’m gross if I haven’t spoken to them yet? I should just assume I’m gross, always?

            • @afraid_of_zombies
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              Usually when they get the torches out and organize the rest of the angry villagers I know that they don’t think highly of me.

            • @[email protected]
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              That’s the fun part, you can’t. Don’t assume they think you’re gross, but do remember that you don’t know what they think.

                • @douglasg14b
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                  Or 3rd wave femanist. Hard to tell the difference sometimes 🤔

                  (For examples, head over to TwoXChromosones for nearly identical hot takes as the commenter above yours)

              • credit crazy
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                118 months ago

                So basically dateing is just Russian roulette with extra steps.

              • @[email protected]
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                But if I tell them they’re beautiful and it turns out they think I’m gross I could go to prison for harassment! Am I really just supposed to roll the dice like that?

          • @[email protected]
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            Woman has dead pan expression and looking into the middle distance. Quindraco: “awww she thinks i’m hideous”

          • @[email protected]
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            Correct, but you won’t know if they think you’re gross until you talk to them. If you see that they think you’re gross, you stop. It’s harassment when you see that they think you’re gross but continue talking to them anyway, because at that point you know they aren’t going to respond well to you, and you’re just continuing on to spite them.

            • @Jarix
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              I ponder if people are comfortable expressing to someone they just meet that they find them gross? Hmm

              My point is there often is nothing to see because that’s actively attempting to be hidden. Good normal decent people don’t like the feeling of giving people bad news already but when it’s bad news about something so personal and also recognizing that not everyone gets dealt the best hand in life?

              It’s insane to put the entirety of responsibility to “read the room” on one person even if they are the initiator.

              This is where social contract comes in. We all need a new modern social contract we can agree on to help us remove these barriers of interaction.

              But i guess that’s the point of these types of works is to bring attention to that situation. It’s a valid observation i think, commentary on it aside for now

              • @[email protected]
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                Well, if you’re actively trying to hide your disgust from someone, it’s because you don’t want them to know, at which point you obviously can’t expect them to react to it. Ultimately, it’s not about you trying to divine someone’s real feelings, instead it’s about reacting to what they do show you. It’s the responsibility of everyone who interacts with others in a public space to be knowledgeable about both verbal and nonverbal cues that someone’s not interested, so that they can display and/or recognize them as required.

                • @Jarix
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                  As far as i can tell we said the same thing. I will admit i have a hard time figuring our how to explain what im thinking so im not attempting to blame anyone here

                  It’s the responsibility of everyone who interacts with others in a public space to be knowledgeable about both verbal and nonverbal cues that someone’s not interested, so that they can display and/or recognize them as required.

                  This is part of what i envision a new modern social contract would take care of

          • @RobertOwnageJunior
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            128 months ago

            Congrats, you’ve won the ‘Dumbest person of the Week’ award.

      • @RealFknNito
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        I hope you just have a feminine sounding name and you’re not a real life woman with this opinion.

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          Oooo are we gendering usernames now? Do mine!

          • @RealFknNito
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            Garbage is definitely masculine and bagel is pretty neutral and taking into account everyone online is a guy, definitely a guy.

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              No, no, no. See, your typical garbage bag has some smush to it, and a bagel has a hole! If we put these facts together, we can surmise that OP 3.0 is actually an earthworm with one of its ends sewed shut!

              …I don’t know anything about an earthworm’s sex, so I’m going to go with it being a neutral.

      • @Soulg
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        No, it isn’t.

        If there was a frame of her saying no, but then he doesn’t leave her alone, then sure.

        • @VelvetStorm
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          So you think it’s 100% cool to walk up to someone at work and start hitting on them?

            • @[email protected]
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              Sexual harassment isn’t a crime, and hitting on a coworker is textbook sexual harassment. You should probably talk to HR before you get yourself fired.

          • @[email protected]
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            Depends on how you do it. The way it’s portrayed here is weird, because they use the “is it sexual harassment…” phrase and kinda belittle the problem of sexual harassment within society. Makes me think he’s an avid Andrew Tate fanboy. So it’d be an instant “thx goodbye” from me.

            But if you just take the rest… I don’t think it’s harassment if you drop an honest compliment and ask for someone’s number.

  • @recapitated
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    Probably the most pathetic cartoon I’ve ever been shown. Author needs real world experiences.

      • @[email protected]
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        118 months ago

        Did not get that impression at all. To me it seems like basically the same thing as the “What have you done, Billy?” and “dumbest man alive” memes. Something relatably annoying followed by a hyperbolic “haha if only” response.

    • @Potatos_are_not_friends
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      Not following. We’re laughing at the comic, right? It’s a funny situation.

      Or is the author some creep?

      • @excitingburp
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        Harassment is continuing once being told “no.” There are a few frames missing from that comic for it to count as harassment.

      • NιƙƙιDιɱҽʂ
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        It would seem the author is conflating sexual harassment with random flirting with women. It also sends the message that the author thinks it should be okay to flirt with random women as they go about their day/job, which is inappropriate, creepy, and annoying. He should probably try treating women like humans and develop a healthier sense of boundaries. He might have better luck.

        • sebinspace
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          Agreed. Put him in the pile with rock throw guy.

      • @Misconduct
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        Don’t flirt with people when they’re working. It’s gross and predatory because they’re basically a captive audience.

  • @TheControlled
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    Unless I’m missing an entire frame, this seems extremely unreasonable, likely illegal, even if that guy is a douche.

    • @Thteven
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      She’s a cop, you think they need a legit reason to arrest someone?

      • @RealFknNito
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        198 months ago

        Sigh. I’ll go get the bootlicker insult ready.

      • @StereoTrespasser
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        98 months ago

        Ooh Lemmy checklist

        ✔️ Cops bad [ ] Capitalism bad [ ] Windows OS bad

        • Cosmic Cleric
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          Ooh Lemmy checklist

          ✔️ Cops bad [ ] Capitalism bad [ ] Windows OS bad

          Thought that dumb meme was supposed to be bingo-based.

        • _NoName_
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          Once you punch all the holes you get a free attack of your character!

      • @BustinJiber
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        She is not a cop, she is a drawing, everything else is in your mind. Imagine arguing against Mona Lisa.

          • @BustinJiber
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            All I’m saying is the amount of projecting in this comment section is staggering.

      • @Cryophilia
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        138 months ago

        The funny part is this comic pits misogynist douche against fascist enforcer.

        Reminds me of how some communities in hick ass northern California came out in support BLM, because while they may hate black people, they hate cops even more.

        • @Jarix
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          Bad jokes and ones that bomb are written everyday. Still can be an attempt at a joke

  • @Zibitee
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    528 months ago

    That’s not sexual harassment, but it is abuse of power lol

    • @CrayonRosary
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      Abuse of power for a random guy at the DMV to ask out a cop?

  • @[email protected]
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    I mean… maybe don’t get 2.5 inches away from her face while rubbing your chest up against her shoulder?

    Probably best not to club her on the head and drag her back to your cave either - at least, not without prior consent :-P.

    • @PeterPoopshit
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      Romance is fucking dead and wokeness killed it

      /s (obviously)

    • @afraid_of_zombies
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      28 months ago

      It is the DMV. Pretty sure anyone smiling at the DMV is a psychopath.

  • @thorbot
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    108 months ago

    Maybe don’t have your erect penis pressing against them when you ask?

      • @thorbot
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        It’s a joke. You really put some research into a comment reply to a fucking joke comment. Bravo

        • 7heo
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          That was a literal 1 minute internet search. I would not call that “research”, really… The standards are low enough as it is, so maybe let’s not drag them down any further.

    • @CrayonRosary
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      Except it’s becoming what a lot of people want. Jokes that hit too close to the sad truth aren’t funny, or interesting, or anything.

      See? Right in these fucking comments. LMAO!

      • @[email protected]
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        Again, the strip is a joke, and you and the person you are screen capping are taking it too seriously. Buddy hits on a cop terribly, buddy ends up in jail… thats the joke

    • TheLowestStone
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      Telling her she’s beautiful and asking for her phone number once is not sexual harassment. Continuing to do so after she has made it clear she isn’t interested is.

      However, it does look like he’s either looming over her or about to put his arm around her. That’s definitely not ok.

      • @qarbone
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        He is standing side-on to the officer, one hand presumably resting against some surface (a wall) and the other hand on his hip.

        • TheLowestStone
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          If you think that combination of body language and proximity is acceptable when speaking to someone for the first time you’re mistaken. It comes across as Intimidating. Respect people’s personal space.

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      there might be a case if you could convince a court that by stating “is it X if I…” you are aware that the actions could potentially construe X.

    • Lath
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      Technically, no. However, when an officer is at their post in uniform, interfering with their work is a punishable offence.

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      The last two people who said no got downvoted to the negatives so I’ll say maybe and see if I can stay at 0.

      • @wellee
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        I feel like a yes also gets downvoted, so you won the game nj

    • @surewhynotlem
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      It’s not, but when she rejected him he hit her. That’s why he got arrested.

      • @agent_flounder
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        I don’t seem to see that panel. I only see the one where he got instantly angry and called her names.

        • @Buddahriffic
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          Actually it’s missing a lot of panels. She is interested and they date for 3 years before getting married. But then things turn sour after 4 more years, 2 kids, and both of them falling out of love, and she made up stories so that her colleagues ended up arresting him to gain an advantage in the custody battle. You can tell this from the way he’s holding his head in the last panel.