• @[email protected]
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    Nobody asked, but as a gay man I exclusively refer to my husband as “my husband.” I never liked the term “partner.” We didn’t start a business together, and we’re not cops. “Life partner” bothers me less, but it still seems stilted

    • @RBWells
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      I miss when my gay friends all called their partners “lovers”.

      As in literally if they were introducing their boyfriend, it was never “this is my boyfriend Chris” it was “this is Chris, my lover.”

      No idea if it was just a local thing but it was just so, well, lovely.

    • @return2ozmaOP
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      Same. Gay and married to “my husband”. Before that he was my boyfriend, not my partner.

      • @[email protected]
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        21 hour ago

        Yes, my boyfriend! It seems so odd when I see straight people use the term partner. Well, as far as I’m concerned, they can have it.

        • @[email protected]
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          61 hour ago

          As a man who has used the term partner in a heterosexual relationship, sometimes it is nice to have a term that implies a bigger commitment than “girlfriend” when you have no intention of marriage. That was definitely how I used it—to convey that this woman doesn’t have a ring, but I give her maximum authority when it comes to my affairs.

          • @[email protected]
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            31 hour ago

            Can’t relate. I grew up thinking marriage would always be illegal for me. When I had the opportunity, I took it.

            • @[email protected]
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              51 hour ago

              I’m glad you had that chance. Marriage is something I never particularly wanted, but I was brought around to the idea by a different lady. Now we are in counseling and things are on the rocks…I think I may still not believe in marriage, but I respect everyone’s right to choose for themselves.

    • @mipadaitu
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      Back in the day it did sound weird. Partner was usually a business relationship, not a romantic one, and it was almost exclusively used by the LGBT crowd.

      More gender neutral terms are good, but they’re still going to sound odd to folks who spent 40+ years hearing the terms used in a different way. That’s just how progress goes, older folks eventually will either get used to it, or be the weird relative ignored at holidays.

  • @Postmortal_Pop
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    Mine and I are getting married this week and we were both excited to see “spouse” as an option on the documents.

    We are now spouse and spouse.

  • Hegar
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    My parents have always referred to each other as their partner, so that’s what I’ve always done. It’s just normal.

    Since moving to the US people get so weird about it. I had a boss’s boss ask me why I call my wife my partner in a skip-level. I was so confused I just stared at her and said “What?” It was like being ask why I think oranges are citrus fruit.

  • PhobosAnomaly
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    I do it for two reasons: partly because it’s fuck all business to anyone else (within reason) what the status of my relationship is.

    Mainly though, because it generally messes with folk because they don’t understand what it means, and feel compelled to ask silly questions about it.

    • @[email protected]
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      54 hours ago

      Mainly though, because it generally messes with folk because they don’t understand what it means, and feel compelled to ask silly questions about it.

      Yeah, this is my favourite part of it.

  • @[email protected]
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    114 hours ago

    My spouse and I just use SO (esso) for significant other. I like it more than partner as it is explicitly a romantic or at least very important relationship.

  • @Nosavingthrow
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    I don’t know about anyone else, but I started doing it because I want to destroy Western culture.

    • @Tikiporch
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      What do you have against Westerns, pardner?

    • @pwalshj
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      225 hours ago

      Funnily enough, due to Western culture marriage has become a business so ‘partner’ is more accurate.

      • @[email protected]
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        Online dating is essentially a startup pitch. You spend weeks reviewing ‘applications,’ then finally meet for an in-person ‘investor meeting’ to discuss potential ‘synergies.’ If things go well, you can initiate a merger, but if the market shifts—aka they’re not into your favorite TV shows—you’ll quietly dissolve the partnership and move on to the next opportunity.

    • Flying Squid
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      105 hours ago

      Have you tried holding hands and kissing? I hear that causes hurricanes.

      • @pwalshj
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        45 hours ago

        That’s why you do that sort of stuff inland.

        • Flying Squid
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          Oh sure, good luck moving Fire Island inland.

    • @littlewonder
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      I started to advance the deep state woke agenda and get paid by Soros, personally.

    • @Chee_Koala
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      “Good morning, Comrade…” I’ll try this soon, thanks! 🙏

    • @b34k
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      Well, a married household is basically a commune.

  • @[email protected]
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    145 hours ago

    I’m an old guy. Since we (my "partner and I) are not married but have lived together for years (no common law here,) husband/wife doesn’t apply. I don’t know any other word to use other than partner, but it is still difficult for me to naturally say. Not sure why. Funnier (at our age) would be boyfriend and girlfriend. Uh … no.

    • @[email protected]
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      74 hours ago

      A family friend in a similar spot just referred to each other as “life partners”. Any others it was just “partner” or “significant other”.

  • YaksDC
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    115 hours ago

    This is super common in most other English speaking countries and has been for years. Well before the culture wars.

  • @[email protected]
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    55 hours ago

    Seems weird you’d think the “end goal” of accepting people is so everyone can use boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever partner just seems so disconnected and formal

    • Kraiden
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      My partner is not a girl, she’s a woman, and she more than a friend to me. She is my partner in life. So yes, it is more formal than “girlfriend.” That’s the point.

      And no, I won’t marry her. We’re not religious, and we don’t believe the government should have any input in our relationship. We’ll happily have a ceremony, but she will still be my partner at the end of it.

      • @[email protected]
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        94 hours ago

        Sometimes having the government on your side is important. (E.g., entrance to hospital rooms in emergencies)

        Not trying to convince you, just something to consider depending on your jurisdiction

        • Kraiden
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          I do worry about that.

          It theoretically shouldn’t be a problem here. We’re listed as each others primary emergency contacts, and we’ve been together longer than 2 years, which over here grants you most of the same privileges as marriage anyway. So it hopefully won’t be an issue. I just hope we never have to test that.

          Actually, where I know it will matter is if one of us had to die unexpectedly, but that can be negated by just having a proper will drawn up… which, come to think of it, we should really do…

  • @madcaesar
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    I call mine baybe

    “Baybe wake up! Some new pasta just dropped!”