• @Tangent5280
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    This also depends on what kind of roads you have to walk on - highways suck for nighttime walks, because not only are you constantly on edge to try not to get run over, you also need to walk for miles to get anywhere.

    Suburbs are nicer, but the best is to walk in a park, but that raises your chances of getting murdered by a lot so idk

    I don’t know where I was going with this. I lost my train of thought.

    • @kryptonianCodeMonkey
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      My suburb neighborhood is filled with walkers and it is super unsafe at night. They decided when they built it that they didn’t want to to create and maintain sidewalks and street lamps, so people always walk in the road and the only lights are the lamp posts at the end of people’s driveways. And almost nobody wears reflectives, or carries lights or anything on their person. Particularly when you’re blinded by an oncoming car’s lights, it’s nearly impossible to see people until you’re right up on them.

      • @Tangent5280
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        It’s so stupid and shortsighted. Living environments are not just the inside of our homes - it includes the outside, the neighbourhood, and the options you have to travel in and out of there. All of this together decide your quality of life inside your home.

  • @[email protected]
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    Gross to me that multiple comments here are ignoring this reality. Crimes committed by men against women in situations like that are so common that women aren’t protecting themselves unless they consider every unfamiliar man a potential threat.

    Obviously women can also commit crimes against men, but its so much less common that I don’t have to take precautions to protect myself against them.

    As a man it kind of sucks when you are assumed to be dangerous even when you aren’t, but you need to get over it. Its not worth it for women to compromise their safety, and assume you to not be a threat just to make you feel better.

    • The Picard ManeuverOPM
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      Obviously women can also commit crimes against men, but its so much less common that I don’t have to take precautions to protect myself against them.

      Yeah, I’ve never had second-thoughts about walking past some dangerous-looking women or checking over my shoulder to make sure some woman isn’t following me home. This is a regular thing that women deal with, and pretending that the experiences are anywhere close to equivalent is odd.

      • @SchmidtGenetics
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        It’s dark and night, how can you tell gender?

        People are afraid of anything in these situations, but they justify it by using men as an excuse, even though, you wouldn’t tell it’s man or women, until it’s too late anyways….

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          It is not an “excuse.” If I’m attacked by a man at night, I will have a more difficult time protecting myself than if a man was attacked at night, on average. Not to mention that you have to ask yourself, what is the attacker after? Because being sexually assaulted or raped is so personal and awful that it’s natural to have a higher amount of fear of that outcome.

          Like how if you were equally likely of being jumped at night by a stranger as you were of being abducted and having spiky metal spears shoved in your urethra… you might recognize that’s it’s not super likely you’ll get shot, but you would be way less likely to risk it since the fact that sounding is just too awful to chance (for the vast majority of the population).

          Also… my sample size is too small to be statistically relevant, but 100% of the men I know are sure they could “take” a random female attacker.

          Unrelated; asking that question was difficult but not for the reason I expected. It was like a game! “Do I have super powers in this scenario?” “Is she armed? Am I armed?” “How much time do I have to prepare?” And my personal favorite, from a particularly well-traveled friend- “Is she like a random person, or one of my exes?”

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          I can easily see if it’s a women or a man just based on how they move from a distance.

          I guess it depends on how dark it is. If it’s pitch black, nobody can see, but usually you have some shape you can see.

    • @[email protected]
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      As a man it kind of sucks when you are assumed to be dangerous

      Sorry I didn’t assume you were a pussy. My mistake.

    • @[email protected]
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      Women are murdered less often than men. It’s simply irrational for women to be more afraid of being murdered than men are.

      • @[email protected]
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        Haha… You may be right about how often it happens, but no woman is going to feel safe because it rarely happens. Women can get kidnapped or beaten up or raped too… It’s not a safe world.

        It’s not a safe world for guys either but at least we are built to take a few punches without breaking an arm.

  • @SchmidtGenetics
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    Women can’t murder?

    Edit, it’s dark and night, how can you tell who’s approaching you? Men and women both murder, you’re worried about being murdered, not “men murdering” sexism works both ways yo.

      • @SchmidtGenetics
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        I wonder if that’s only for the USA, does that apply to other countries as well?

      • @[email protected]
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        Certain minorities have higher chances of committing crimes as well but treating them differently based on that is textbook discrimination. Weird how one judgment is okay and the other is not.

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          Not 7.5 times higher though. No other factor is as big a predictor as gendered violence. Men commit violence against women and other men much, much more often than women do.

          And if you are a man, you should be just as mad because the chances that you are a victim of a violent act by another man is much higher too.

          Not all men are violent, but men and women are both victims of the anger of this small-subset of men that we have been unable to identify what else they have in common beyond gender.

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      Physically, it’s impossible for a woman to murder a man. They have tiny hands like Trump.

    • @FollyDolly
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      At night on walks!? We are talking about the dangers of walking alone at night. Are 13 year old boys afriad to walk in the park because they will get jumped by pedophiles of the opposite gender?

    • @[email protected]
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      You mean women are also capable of committing crimes? I’m gonna need some more sources for an outlandish take like that.