• @[email protected]
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    1 month ago

    I really wish we could disable PMs from anyone but admins or mods of comms we subscribe to, like you can on reddit. There will never be a day when I want to receive a PM from anyone on Lemmy. It’s nothing personal, there’s lots of cool people here, but I’m not interested in being pen pals. I’m just here for the public forum.

    • @CatZoomies
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      561 month ago

      Ooh! You sound sexy and I definitely want to be your pen pal! I’ve sent you a DM!

      Also, I have a great business opportunity for you if you’re interested! Have you ever heard of NFTs?

      NFTs went away for a while because of crime and scams, but they fixed all those problems I swear. NFTs are the sexiest investment a sexy person could make, and they’re even better now that the leaders are implementing AI! It’s going to be revolutionary! It’s like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI. It’s the bees knees! It’ll make Stephen Hawking blush! I’ll help broker it for you, and if you send me 1 NFT, I will send you 2 back just because I like you.

      Can’t wait for your reply!! ❤️

      • @[email protected]
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        151 month ago

        If we were on Reddit, OP’s inbox would get flooded with messages, but Lemmy isn’t active enough for that…

      • @[email protected]
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        41 month ago

        30ish / nonbinary per presidential decree / Land of the Free™~(Terms and conditions apply)~

  • @winkly
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    341 month ago

    Or come hang out with us at room/hell

  • @RBWells
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    201 month ago

    Got 4 copies of it, I don’t even know how to send a message to “all” here, didn’t think it was possible.

    • @[email protected]
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      71 month ago

      The API is pretty open. you can write a script that sends individual messages to however many people you like

      • @[email protected]
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        Neither of the apps I use lets me do anything beyond read the message and mark it as read. Is there a profile setting to disable that shit? I have to log into my fucking desktop just to delete the stupid phishing message.

          • @[email protected]
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            Ahh yeah, I can. So far I prefer the ux of apps (thunder,raccoon,eternity) to lemmy on mobile though. And I was already logged in on desktop so that was faster.

    • @Fredselfish
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      I got it to. Did they send it to everyone? And exactly how would you do that?

    • @[email protected]
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      21 month ago

      Well you shouldn’t feel loved.

      This has nothing to do with you as a person and I would never want you to feel loved undeservedly. Because I care about you.

      (Please don’t take my overwhelming kindness in the wrong way and feel as if you’re receiving any kind of love from me. As previously stated, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with me being an excellent person.)

      • @[email protected]
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        11 month ago

        I was being sarcastic …

        It’s like saying you feel loved when a bunch of flies are swarming you or when you get pulled out of line to be screened by airport security or you get some weird reply on dumb comment you made.

        • @[email protected]
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          I tried to make it as clear as possible I was riffing on your joke. I don’t believe in having to label sarcasm with “/s” because it implies the people reading it are too stupid to recognize an ironic comment.

          • @[email protected]
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            11 month ago

            Sorry my bad, I’m having a shitty weekend and I think my brain has quit on me, I’ve missed a couple of obvious things this weekend.

            • @[email protected]
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              We’ve all been there. Hang tough (or veg out and treat yourself to a good nothing. Sometimes that’s the ticket for me.) Feel better!

  • @[email protected]
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    Besides all that drama of OP:

    Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool. The problem is as always that we can not trust these messages because of the last decade of misuse on various platforms. Even if we take out all the scams, we only accept the right message in the right medium: If someone would write me what OP posted on LinkedIn, I would read it as a business inquire connection (at best). If she would write me that on Tinder&co, I would take it as an avance. If I would get a message like that on facebook, I do not believe in it as a honest request anymore. On Insta I would read it as a scam too. But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”. We need a Platform/Network/Medium to give a room to actually send a message like that where a connection without the aspect of business or sex is assumed because of the choosen Platform/Network/Medium.

    The Fediverse will not solve this problem sadly, as it is mainly just decentralized, but is not out to solve societary tilts and disgraces. But it is nice to think that such a place/site/room could exist (one day?) where a person (even of another gender) could have an exchange like that without bad intentions. As usally, The good ones are silent, and the loud ones are scams.

    • @Gradually_Adjusting
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      171 month ago

      The loneliness epidemic in a nutshell: we feel we can’t trust people being open and friendly.

      That isn’t normal, by the way.

      • @BradleyUffner
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        251 month ago

        The problem isn’t that we feel we can’t trust them. It’s that we actually can’t trust them. Trusting someone that messages you that way is likely to end up with you in a bathtub full of ice, or at the very least, a compromised bank account.

      • @[email protected]
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        111 month ago

        Most people are open and friendly but you have to meet them in real life.

        I signed up for dinner with strangers thing, meeting five random strangers I didn’t know before. Every single one was friendly and open about their lives.

        We all need to be very careful not to think social media is real life. Outside of all this, most people are decent, specially when a bit older.

    • @[email protected]
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      71 month ago

      But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said “The Medium is the Message”

      I’m not sure this is possible on the internet in general. Even in the early days of facebook people were forced to grow suspicious of their old acquaintances reaching out to say hi only to be hit with some “be your own boss!” MLM schtick, and that was when you could be fairly confident the sender was a real person that you actually have known for some time. Not to mention how suspicious we all are of some of the “living my best life!” type of humble-brag posts that are really just sad people playing pretend.

      Add a layer of anonymity and I’m just not sure genuine trust could ever be possible. Try to take away anonymity and you wander into the quagmire that is personal privacy and still can’t avoid the possibility of scams and compromised accounts.

      I think that the Internet as a Medium simply cannot do what we have been trying to force it to do for years - serve as a good “third place” for socialization. Do people make friends here? Absolutely. But people make friends in the ICU, doesn’t mean we should install a bar there.

    • ᴇᴍᴘᴇʀᴏʀ 帝
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      Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool.

      Start c/penpals

    • @TrickDacy
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      I don’t know what drama you think op is introducing

    • @idiomaddict
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      That’s basically how people introduced themselves on the public discord servers I frequented during the pandemic and it was normal

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      Yeah, but also, such a thing could only result in meaningful physical relationships if the servers/communities have some kind of “local” association. For example, a server for france, one for italy, and one for the netherlands, you know what i mean?

      Otherwise, if you just want to flirt and be silly, i recommend the [email protected] community comment sections.

      • @jordanlund
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        Created the same day so seems likely.

        Also, the spammer linked above is now banned.

        • @[email protected]
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          Interestingly there is a reddit user named Korvin-lin-sognar, who posts lots of pro-Russia, anti-Ukraine, pro-Trump, etc. you name it content on reddit and twitter.

          They are also in IT with strong webdev skills, and possibly have an exemption from conscription for working more than a year in a Russian IT company(or are angry it doesn’t apply to them?)

          Just saying if I was a Russian foreign agent (or troll) trying to use bots to fish and setup a troll farm on lemmy/Fediverse, I’d probably look a like like this netizen.


          Edit: I’ve now been messaged by the sognar account as well as the original missy29. Interesting that the message has changed to include links now. Did anyone else get contacted by sognar?

          • sp3ctr4l
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            Yep!

            Here’s round two for me:

            My first message from missy also had links, didn’t think to screenshot it, definitely did not click on them, but I think they at least looked the same…

          • Rhaedas
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            I did, and it’s still there. I isolated the png because it was obviously a suspicious message and realized what they were doing, and wasn’t sure if viewing anything without caution might be a problem.

            I’ve had a few messages in the past, general greetings out of the blue, but not with this much “bait”. I still haven’t figured out how to delete a PM in Mbin (there are no options anywhere that I see), so there they sit.

            • @jordanlund
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              Long press to bring up options? That works for me in Boost to report PMs.

              • Rhaedas
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                Can’t do a long press on desktop. :/ For what it’s worth, you posted that both got banned, but they still show in my messages, so it seems pretty permanent. Maybe I’ll look around at Mbin’s dev and see if it’s a known bug…I mean, feature.

                • @jordanlund
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                  Might be a federation issue too. The missy29 message in my inbox was removed, but my reply is still there.

    • Otter
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      Oh so that’s why, I reverse searched the image earlier and it linked to that post. Looks like there is another image on that profile now

  • Flying Squid
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    As a mod in other coomunities, please report these as quickly as you can. They can generally be taken care of quickly.

  • tiredofsametab
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    I didn’t even know pms were a thing mbin until I got that one earlier. No pic on mine, but might be a cross-compatability issue or already the link died