That’s been something hard about transitioning, being aware of how fewer and fewer people find me attractive the further I go. Ah well, it’s not like I was going to find a partner anyways, looks really never came into play in the first place.
I feel like this meme was made by a gen z kid that grew up with filtered pictures being normal
Over the years of talking with my wife about who we find attractive, she has realized I find almost all women attractive in some ways and normally the ones that are supposed to be attractive i find less attractive. She hated this realization because she applied it to herself, and it made her feel bad… I just find the good in most people, that’s all!
There’s a coworker of mine that when the topic arises and he gets asked what is his preference (in terms of the types of women he likes) his response is “women” 😂
Now try finding someone you find attractive and who also finds you attractive in return (it’s impossible).
I did a calculation once about my chances of finding a compatible long-term partner, inspired by the Drake Equation and using many many assumptions. The numbers are not good: ~22 out of 8 billion.
That seems absurdly low. Are you sure that all of your criteria are non-negotiable? And entirely uncorrelated?
As a married man, I gotta say you’re probably selling yourself short or have unrealistic expectations of a partner.
Remember that whoever you’re going to date is a person, not a robot. People are not quantifiable. One day they may be a dick, the next they may be pleasant. Some people are willing to compromise and others aren’t. Man, woman, or other, it doesn’t matter. If you’re not willing to compromise something, you’re never going to find someone.
Yall need to lower your expectations god damn
I like reminding my single friends that 73% of Americans are considered overweight. 41% are obese.
A shocking amount of my male friends are overweight or obese and refuse to date overweight women.
So you’re saying there’s a chance
I’m curious about the math you did to come to that final number
I only need to make 1 assumption to solve that equation for me
0% of people would find me attractive
QE fucking D
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I’m bi myself and a shut in. How do you find people in general I don’t know.
From what I understand if you just stay in front of the computer that they will magically manifest inside your home.
Amazing, I’ll just keep doing that thanks.
I’ve heard that it also goes faster if you complain about women being evil and stupid on the computer.
When you find a (rare!) female online, you must protect her at all costs. She will be surrounded by ne’er-do-wells and men of ill-intent. You are her knight. She is your lady. You must never doubt yourself in this. Nature will take its course.
That’s when you start negging her.
now imagine being gay and the dating pool is 90% smaller.
Be ace and the dating pool is 100% smaller.
Be me and the dating pool is 200% smaller.
Aro/ace: “good”.
I swear this has the opposite effect. In more than one instance, I’ve told someone I’m ace and it’s made them more persistent, like they’re thinking ‘Oh, I can fix that.’ No, I assure you, you can’t. Please stop. :(
Pull the reverse card on them and treat their attraction like it’s something that needs fixing: “Oh, you’re attracted to me? I’m so sorry to hear that! Have you tried therapy?”
I miss acedatespace. There’s acespace.love, but that’s more like people shouting into the void than an actual dating site.
rip
If you like each other and you share most values, there is your partner. If your partner is good looking as well; great for you guys!
Ah the classic “date someone I don’t find attractive”, a famously stable long term strategy. We’ll just ignore that whole critical issue of intimacy. Right right right.
Ya, the meme is trash, but attraction is important. It may evolve or surprise you, but it is relevant.
The upper one depicts the guys around me. I can go through the lower one, but the result is usually this.
