• Lido
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    Maybe I’m wrong, but I read this as a woman’s response to Republicans.

  • @[email protected]
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    I don’t give a damn if the hooker orgasms or not. I just want to bust a nut and dance with the hooker dressed up to look like my mom.

  • @Professorozone
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    Or you could teach him. Better for both of you.

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      Right? My immediate thought was just that is is awful communication and everyone would have a better time if they just said something in either scenario

    • @CaptnNMorgan
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      Not everyone has the patience for that

      • @Holyginz
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        If you aren’t willing to learn and grow with your partner you should stick to masturbating

      • @[email protected]
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        Oh and that is fine but then you have to ask yourself if you want to have a partnership with bad sex. If not, break up, or “teach” by communicating what you want, what is good and what is bad. There is no alternative, accept bad sex, break up, teach.

        (Technically, you could let them have sex outside of the partnership to study, but… Well, not my cup of tea)

  • @bcgm3
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    Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.

    Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?

    • Semi-Hemi-Lemmygod
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      I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity

      • @namarupa
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        This happens when providing suggestions to anyone about anything when you’re dealing with an insecure person.

      • @inv3r510n
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        Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.

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        Well that’s just two reasons not to date them since those guys all probably listen to Tate.

  • @CharlesDarwin
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    I always think of Kramer saying he faked orgasms, LOL. 🤣

  • @[email protected]
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    I dumped a woman when she told me she faked her orgasms. Good sex requires honesty, trust, and communication. It’s impossible to get better when either person is being dishonest.

    • @[email protected]
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      Good, fuck her. Or not fuck her in this case. I’ve dated two or three guys that had honesty issues, and the relationship crumbled very quickly after I figured it out. Without trust there’s no respect, no cooperation, no kindness.

      • @[email protected]
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        “It’s ok babe, I’m good, my thighs are sore.”
        “No, I’m gonna get you off tonight!”

        Sometimes the kind thing to do is just fake it. It doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t satisfied. But getting to the Big O is often times just too much trouble.

        • @[email protected]
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          Okay but if that’s his response then put your foot down and tell him in no uncertain terms that you are finished

        • @kofe
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          If the follow up to you saying you’re done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn’t suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It’s just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.

    • deaf_fish
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      Tell him it’s not going to happen. It’s okay if it doesn’t. The important part is he tried.

      • @apostrofail
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        I keep a box of “You Tried!” stickers in my nightstand for this very reason

    • @FelixCress
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      Squeezing balls make wonders or so I heard.

        • @stoicmaverick
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          The balls often get neglected. Give them a little gentle attention too. Basically, do the kind of things that would feel good if done to your breasts (cupping them, light scratches and tickles, a gentile squeeze, a medium tug, ect.). Combined with a halfway decent stroking or sucking, it’ll take care of most guys in pretty short order. Any other questions you don’t want to ask someone who you’ll have to see again? Happy to educate. I’m a male nurse if that somehow makes it less weird.

          • @paddirn
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            TMI warning, but I actually prefer this everytime I fuck now, having my balls cupped and squeezed, it makes sex so much better. It’s just constant stimulation when going for the in-stroke and out-stroke, and then it feels great when nutting.

            Unfortunately, it can sometimes depend on the shape of a woman’s body if she can easily do it. If a woman has a dump truck ass, she may not be able to reach around her phat ass to get your balls. I wish there was something I could wear in that situation that felt the same, but I don’t know that a testicle pouch would really do it. Plus, it’d be weird to ask a partner to let me wear it before sex.

            • @FelixCress
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              If a woman has a dump truck ass,

              She has a what now?

              • @keckbug
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                Indeed, dump truck ass has been colorfully describing big booties in songs and social media for over a decade now.

  • atro_city
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    > Lies there like a dead fish
    > Barely participates
    > Expects pleasure beyond wildest dreams
    > “Why are men so bad at sex?”

  • @Rakonat
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    While 100% in the don’t fake it camp, please also remember us men are not mind readers and our equipment works different. Much like with cooking and cleaning, if you don’t tell us what we are doing wrong or better yet show us the right way, we are going to assume we did our part cause we got the result we wanted and you didn’t complain or ask for something different.

    • @Siethron
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      Also a woman’s ability to cum varies HIGHLY from person to person.

      • Captain Aggravated
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        I’ve noticed a pretty direct correlation with a woman’s habit of masturbating and her ability to orgasm during sex. The chick I was seeing just before I went back to college, I’d believe it if you told me that I’ve played with her clit more than she ever has TO THIS DAY, and guess what? She never once gave me any suggestion on what she wanted me to do, I’m sure because she genuinely didn’t know.

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        I’d say day to day as well, depending on many factors (stress, energy level, hormones, etc.)

        Just communicate and see what’s working or not, or if anything works at all. It will make the sex better for everyone involved.

      • @MisterFrog
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        Funnily enough, this is the case for men too. Hence all the “this has never happened to me before” memes on TV shows in the 90s and 00s.

      • @FelixCress
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        Funnily enough, your wife said the same thing.

    • @[email protected]
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      What I happened to notice with different girls as a guy is that for many, of not most, telling/showing the right way is a turn-off and having something the right way without showing first is a source of tremendous excitement.

      With that said, we, men, are still not mind readers, and women really do have it very differently, so some common sex education, while useful, can only cover the basics, and even they are not universally applicable.

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        I dunno man, most women in my experience have all really appreciated (and as much said out loud) that there was communication. Sure, if it happens without any prompting or guidance, it’s mind blowing because it feels like there’s something naturally special going on, but that’s a pretty rare thing. Sexual compatibility can be tweaked and guided, for sure, but then again there are also people who just don’t have it together.

        There are also just toxic people that want perfection with zero work. But that’s not how shit works, even if they can be a vocal group

      • @Omgpwnies
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        telling/showing the right way is a turn-off

        I don’t think OP is talking about a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your kink, you do you), but more like some verbal cues “faster” “don’t stop” “a little lower” etc. If the guy has a reasonable amount of attentiveness and experience, he should be able to get her 80% of the way there. Also, little cues like that can be hot as well because we know she’s into it and stuff.

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      Yes! Also, tell your male friends to communicate and actively ask what feels good!

      Edit: Also

    • @[email protected]
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      Fake orgasm is very counter-productive, even when it’s used as a feeling preservibg way of saying “I’m tired and bored, let’s just finish you off and go back to watching tv”

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    I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.

    this group includes me

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        She’s referring to the orgasm

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    I feel like as.a.woman I.have to.point out that, many times, a woman orgasming or not is not.your fuck’s fault.

    I would also.like to point out that it is harder to orgasm in “normal” sex than is it with oral, so.if your girl didn’t orgasm don’t take it personally, pull your pants up and go down on her

    • Ricky Rigatoni
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      I understand you are a woman but you really need to get control of your periods here.

    • Jo Miran
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      I believe your comment is suffering from irregular periods.

        • @scrion
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          Or they have the same issue as me, their phone keyboard randomly inserting periods all the time. I manually remove them most of the time, but when I’m agitated, I sometimes can’t be bothered.

          This happens with several apps, e. g. https://www.reddit.com/r/Swiftkey/comments/wylng4/random_periods/

          I didn’t particularly want to link to reddit, but I wasn’t able to quickly find e. g. an issue tracker.

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            I use and recommend HeliBoard. It’s foss, it’s customizable, it’s privacy conscious and, other than weird ideas about capitalization sometimes, it’s working flawlessly in two languages simultaneously for me ❤️

              • udon
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                Does it do swipe and how well? Github says a blob library is needed for that. Can’t be bothered with typing individual letters anymore on mobile

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                  Glide typing (only with closed source library ☹️)

                  • library not included in the app, as there is no compatible open source library available
                  • can be extracted from GApps packages (“swypelibs”), or downloaded here (click on the file and then “raw” or the tiny download button)

                  Haven’t tried it yet. GitHub does say it is possible by downloading the library.

          • @Coreidan
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            It would also help if these dumb fucking developers wouldn’t put the period right next to the god damn space bar. That might solve a problem or two but noooooooooope it’s gotta be right next to the space bar.

      • @MissJinx
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        The phone adds it auto and I never had the patience to go change it lol. My family is also very annoyed by it

    • @[email protected]
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      There’s also women who can not orgasm by in-and-out movements (like: the act of fucking) and it just hurts them after a while. Had to find that out the hard way.

      • @RedditWanderer
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        I think people would be really surprised at the wide variety of shapes for women insides. Some shapes just don’t get rubbed the same way.

      • Captain Aggravated
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        Positions and angles of attack can matter. Something that feels good for one girl does nothing for or hurts another. And it’s not necessarily a matter of “I like this position” because it’s about how your two bodies interact. It’s very possible you both like different things. I had a girlfriend fairly early on where we pretty quickly realized I liked this and she liked that, and we’d take turns doing the other’s favorite. Dynamics of sexual relationships became a lot less adult after high school.

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      I’m surprised this is news to people but I guess sex education varies between countries maybe.

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      Or, first ask for directions, go down and stay down, keep listening and doing exactly what she says, until she gets there first. THEN bring your dick to the party. For many of us the second and successive orgasms are much quicker and easier to achieve, even from penetrative sex.

      • @Resonosity
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        This is the way. First, second, third base and home.

        Although doesn’t have to be every time. Can skip bases, go backwards, etc.

    • @angrystego
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      Agree. Let me add that some women don’t orgasm at all or do orgasm and don’t like it - yes, the world is a diverse place.

      Communication is key in any relationship.